When understanding why mindfulness is important, it is significant to consider where we tend to rest our attention when we are not aware or paying attention, when we’re not being; well, mindful.
Did you know that we spend approximately 50% of our time ruminating on the past, which we can’t change, it’s gone, we can’t do anything about it or worrying about the future which more often than not doesn’t quite pan out how we imagined it would…it’s quite a lot of wasted time really isn’t it?
Meanwhile we also spend around 46% of our time in automatic pilot. Have you ever driven somewhere & wondered how you got there? This is automatic pilot. It’s important for our brains to habituate repetitive tasks & new skills in order to save valuable energy. But if we dwell too much in automatic pilot, in our subconscious thoughts, we often end up reacting automatically which can get us into trouble.
Finally, we have evolved with a strong negativity bias, it’s our brain’s way of keeping us safe, scanning our environment for threats. This was really important when the sabre tooth tiger was parading outside our cave door but our brain can’t tell the difference between perceived & real threats: the sabre tooth tiger or an email from our boss asking us to work late.
As a result of this negativity bias, we are more disposed to focus on the negative. Rick Hanson talks about how negative experiences tend to stick in our head like Velcro, whilst +ve experiences are like Teflon. For example, we find 100 pounds, we think ah that’s nice, but if we loose 100 pounds it’s a disaster. It can take up to 5 positives to offset a negative.
Instead of letting a negative experiences define us when we practice mindfulness we can take a moment to reflect on this experience, appreciating that everyone has a bad day & reflecting on what we could learn from it. Meanwhile being more engaged in the now we can take some time to savour the good times, committing them to memory by literally stopping & reflecting on situation & appreciating it.
When you layer all this up, a little like the layers of an onion, and put it together with our natural disposition & all the many stresses & strains for modern living, not to mention global pandemics…there’s not a great deal of time left to enjoy the only moment that really matters: this present moment. And here we are back at the old expression – the past is history, the future a mystery, the present is a gift, why do you think it’s called the present?
When we practice mindfulness, we become more aware of patterns in our mind & body; we can identify real & perceived threats, shift away from negative thoughts & reconnect to the present moment, a calmer more compassionate space in which to reside. It also gives us an opportunity to acknowledge that we can’t stop our minds from doing what they do: thinking thoughts but we can stop these thoughts from controlling us.
This week’s meditation is a waterfall meditation – a visualisation, this meditation gives us the opportunity to reflect on the torrent of thoughts cascading through our mind as we would the flow of water in a waterfall, developing a sense of spacious distance from these thoughts. To obtain your copy email Alex at alex@alexbannard.com quoting FROSTWATER.
Alex is based on the edge of the stunning Cotswolds & has been sharing her love for all things yoga & mindfulness for almost a decade, not just in the UK but also around the world. Her mission is to help everyone discover a more mindful way of living & to encourage them to embrace regular self-care practices for a happier & healthier way of being.
If you would like more information on how to practice mindfulness, meditation & yoga message her at alex@alexbannard.com.
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