Words For The Wounded Writing Prize

walking wounded competitionFrost Magazine has came across a very worthy charity thanks to Jane Cable: Words For The Wounded was launched by Margaret Graham, an author at Random House.

Margaret said; “I launched the charity Words for the Wounded  last year and we raise money via writing competitions and donations to help in the recovery of our wounded service personnel. This year we are supporting the Creative Arts Unit at Tedworth House Recovery Centre. Every penny from the entry fees and donations goes to the wounded. We raise money for the prizes in other ways. My son and son-in-law have been noble and done various Ironman marathons and Triathlons for us but this year my colleague and old school friend, Jan Speedie, and I are giving them a break and doing a tandem sky dive. Yes, I know. My grandchildren say the same, ‘You’re mad.’ But needs must.  My agent despairs of the lengths to which I will go to be strapped to a handsome young man.

Words for the Wounded has a 1st prize of £250, 2nd £100 and 3rd £50, and publication in Writers’ Forum magazine. Entry fee is £4.50. We ask for poetry, non-fiction or fiction up to a maximum of 400 words on the subject of The Journey. It can be physical, emotional or both. The closing date is 11 March.”

Margaret also has a W4W blog which includes writing tips www.wordsforthewounded.blogspot.co.uk. 

Margaret went on to say that “the majority of those injured are under 25. These are life changing injuries and they will need help to recover their self-confidence and independence to get the best from their long lives.”

I am sure you will agree this is a great charity and an equally great competition. Enter now and spread the word.

 

New Faces | Roy A. Tindle

Roy A. TindleAre you sick of seeing the same faces in magazines all the time? So are we. As much as we love the people we read about in the magazines we think it is time to inject some freshness into the media landscape, it is time to give other people a chance, the hottest writers, actors, musicians, scientists, businesspeople.

We want to give people the publicity they deserve, our first one is American author Roy A. Tindle, but watch out for more fresh faces; both old and new, and let us know if you know anyone worthy of inclusion.

The first of our New Faces is American writer Roy A. Tindle. We have interviewed him and include some examples of his work below. We hope you like him as much as we do.

 

Tell us about your writing

I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember. I began writing simple poetry and short

stories then eventually moved on to novellas. Although I had some poetry published,

I never spent much energy trying to publish any of my earlier work until about two years

ago when I finally decided to attempt writing my first full novel. That is when ‘Motive’

was born.

 

What is your inspiration?

Most of my work may seem a little dark at first glance, but in nearly every case I attempt

to highlight the brighter side of life and love. I enjoy drawing the parallels between

light and dark, good and evil and the contrast between where we are now and where

we might one day be as individuals and as a society. My goal is to cause people to pause

long enough to take a look inside themselves to discover who they really are and ask

themselves the tough questions. Ultimately, I hope to inspire and uplift people with

what I write. These things are what inspire me to write.

 

What is your writing routine?

My writing routine is anything but a routine. I try to spend time each day writing, but

that isn’t always possible. Research, editing and habitual rereading occupies much of

my time. Frankly, if I manage to finish one good page a day I’m happy. That may not

seem like a lot and it’s true that it’s a slow process, but I’m hoping to produce chapters

that offer a smooth read that is not only entertaining and suspenseful, but is also

technically accurate.

 

What are you favourite books/authors?

I enjoy reading books of nearly all genres and there are myriad authors who I could

mention here, but to narrow it down to a top three, my favorite authors of all time

would be Dean Koontz, Michael Crichton and Jules Verne and for those who are familiar

with their work will undoubtedly see their influence in my writing style. I’ve always

enjoyed Dean Koontz’s ability to convince his readers that the villain in his stories are

more than human and almost omniscient, but ultimately he demonstrates that true evil

exists all around us and the real boogey man, although he may truly be hiding under

your bed, he isn’t necessarily a supernatural force. He’s the guy next door. Michael

Crichton and Jules Verne perfected the art incorporating real world science into a

fictional format. I’m a tech and science geek and not afraid to admit it. Crichton and

Verne are master story tellers who not only tell a good story, they educate their readers

in the process. Journey to the Center of the Earth is above all my favorite book. I have a

collectible first printing of that classic hidden away someplace.

 

Tell us about Motive

‘Motive’ is a book about the human condition and perhaps offers some understanding

of who we are. Although Motive is a suspense novel and, consequentially, much of its

focus is on the darker aspects of human nature, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

This story ultimately leads the reader on a journey throughout the mind, not only from

the dark corners of our psyche and the disturbing things we may find there, but also to

the inspiring and sometimes crippling effects of love and loss and hope and faith and all

those things that define who we are.

 

What is the best thing about writing?

For me, the best thing about writing is being allowed to use my imagination freely and

act a little crazy without the risk of being committed. Lol It is an escape from reality,

really. I think we all need that once in a while. Some people go to the beach. I write…

 

And the worst?

The worst thing about writing has to be the loneliness. I consider myself a social

dragonfly, but writing is mostly a solitary craft. I enjoy the independence of being

a writer, but I often miss the daily interactions I’d have with friends by working a

traditional job.

 

What’s next?

What’s next? I’d really like to write something light and fun. I’ve enjoyed writing

Motive very much, but as I mentioned before, the story is a bit dark and highly technical.

I’m playing around with some new ideas and a particular character named Norman

“Northman” Northcutt may be making a debut with his ‘amazing abnormalities’ very soon.

 

Excerpts below

ABSOLVED OF ABSOLUTION (A Poem) – By Roy A. Tindle

 

Absolved of Absolution

Pretend it never happened. It is so easy to simply neglect the obligations of our hearts, to follow blindly

our captive minds and to imagine our lives are predetermined to lead by whatever means to a fateful and

hollow solitude. Lonesome tears fall more abundantly when absolved from absolution. You are to blame

yet your ignorance is your innocence.

 

A wound heals better when salved with the healing blessings from someone whose blessings are passed

without reproach. Become blameless by not placing blame and human in your fallacy. You’ve loved

before without knowing how it is that love should be, yet still you loved disgracefully and now, when love

is not an ignominy, you hide your face in shame.

 

I pray each night not knowing to who’s ears my prayers fall, but I pray still regardless knowing that even

though deaf ears may hear them I have at least spoken them and therefore I am absolved. I forgive

myself for all I’ve done and not with arrogance. Instead I know that the mistakes I’ve made were made

before knowing that our hearts are equally fragile, therefore I am determined to help you heal yours as

tenderly as if your heart were mine.

 

We are not much different you and I. No matter how things may seem. We hurt, we cry, we love and

we die and we can only hope we don’t have to do it alone. However in the end no matter when that time

may be, I’ll know that when I close my eyes I’ll have been absolved from absolution.

 

MOTIVE (Synopsis) – By Roy A. Tindle

 

In a small sleepy town in southern Michigan, local law enforcement struggles to identify the

cause for a sudden outbreak of horrendous crimes. As the townsfolk continue to disappear,

two desperate detectives team up with an eccentric college professor and forensic psychologist

who may have some insight into the cause. As the team is drawn further into the mystery,

they discover the true potential of man and, by doing so, they begin to understand how dark it

can become when one dives deeper into the cold abyss of the mind. Whether in love or hate,

darkness hides many secrets…. Secrets they’ll wish they had never uncovered.

 

MOTIVE (Excerpt) – By Roy A. Tindle

 

Professor Fredericks grimaced when he took the first bite of his steaming TV dinner. He

had become accustomed to the finer things in life and this of course extended to his cuisine. He

ate most meals alone at his favorite Italian restaurant, Giuseppi’s. Most days after leaving the

college he would stop in for dinner, usually spaghetti and salad with the accompaniment of a

house red wine. The staff at the restaurant knew him on a first name basis and, unless he called

ahead to notify them he would be late or absent, as he did today, his table would be reliably

reserved and the preparation of his meal would be in progress prior to his arrival.

Today however, he decided to eat at home. A decision he had come to regret. He had

no desire to be around people again today and what’s done is done. In the mind of the professor,

the best company was no company at all, unless of course you count the professor himself.

Now alone and, being that his talents do not extend to kitchen work and since he did not have the

foresight to grab some kind of carryout, he would have to make do with what he had. Having

been in the habit of not keeping much in his home for meals and, due to his reclusive nature, he

was left with choking down this tasteless meal in a box. The label on the box said it contained

spaghetti, but the quality of the meal offered debate on the side of shredded shoe leather doused

in tomato juice.

 

After a few agonizing bites of his microwaveable dinner, the professor tossed the

cardboard tray in the trash then attempted to rinse the foul taste from his mouth with an

expensive merlot. He drained his glass then refilled it to the rim. Although the food he kept in

his home lacked of any real quality, he had an extensive stock of delicate wines, one of which he

gluttonously slurped on now. He wasn’t really hungry anyway.

 

The professor gathered his wine glass, then on second thought the bottle too, and then

carried his defunct liquid meal to his study where he plopped down on to his vintage brown

leather arm chair. The walls of the study were lined with hundreds of books, reference manuals

and text books. He was an avid reader and had read every one of these books at least twice each.

Some he had written himself. Tonight however, he would not be reading.

 

He felt lazy. Laziness was not a usual aspect of the professor’s personality, but he

allowed himself this occasional indulgence. He picked up the television remote from the small,

ornate table he had positioned next to his chair and pressed the power button. The small color

television in the corner of the room came to life. The volume was too high for the program that

was currently being displayed. An alternative music station played the non-melodic and off-
tempo cadence of an unpopular punk-rock group. The professor quickly changed the channel.

After flipping mindlessly through a few more stations, the Professor began to become lost

in his thoughts. He thought back through days gone by and relished in his memories. He thought

about his youth and all the days so long ago when life was much simpler.

 

He remembered fishing with his father on the muddy banks of the Dowagiac River. His

father would expertly cast and reel, then cast again a series of three or four fishing poles with

complicated looking reels that somehow spooled the fishing line around an exposed sprocket

instead of pulling it into a closed chamber as did the much simpler red and blue Spiderman pole

he was forced to use. His father said his Spiderman pole had what was called a “closed-bail

reel”, whatever the heck that meant.

 

He laughed when he remembered how his father rarely caught a fish, not because he

wasn’t a skilled angler, he was, but while fishing with his ungainly son he spent more time

retrieving snagged hooks and lures from the branches of surrounding trees than he did actually

fishing. Regardless of his continued failures and inability to properly cast a fishing line, the

Professor never gave up. He wanted his father to be proud and, although he always felt like he

had disappointed him, his father would gracefully brush off his failures with silence, a knowing

smile or the occasional razzing.

 

“Look at you go, Justin! You caught that big ‘ole tree and I all I managed to snag was

this measly minnow,” His father would say while holding up a sizeable bass nearly as long as the

young boy’s arm.

 

He knew his father was patronizing him, but he was glad for it. He would just smile

sheepishly or sometimes play along with his father’s joke. They laughed together and smiled

often. Life was so good then.

 

The Professor cared deeply for his father. He didn’t love him out of any childish sense of

obligation, but because he knew how much his father loved him and his love was given without

reproach. Their close relationship and great love was sustained through the young Professor’s

life. From childhood to adolescence and on into adulthood, the Professor never lost any love for

his father.

 

Though the wound created by the tragic and sudden loss of his father nearly twenty

years ago had not yet been fully healed, the time had not diminished his memories either. He

embraced the good memories as well as the pain, for the Professor believed that is through pain

we truly begin to become alive. In the Professor’s opinion, it is impossible to appreciate life

until we know death. Just as it is difficult to truly appreciate water until we walk through the

desert or how we cannot fully appreciate true love until our hearts have been broken a time or

two.

 

The wounds a heart survives throughout one’s life can sometimes leave it a little callused,

but ultimately it is that same pain that brings understanding, faith and hope. With pain also

comes the loss of innocence and triumph over naivety. Some would call this maturity. The

Professor called it an awakening.

 

As a child, one doesn’t bother worrying about the day-to-day stuff that overruns the

minds of most adults. When a person is young the only thing that matters is the here and now.

Each day is an adventure, full of new surprises and the unknown. Being new to the world, life

for a child is fresh, vibrant and full of color. Most profound of all, the professor decided, is that

children possess the minds of Saints. This is not to say that children behave in the manner of

a Saint, not in the least, but their innocent minds allow them the ability to expect the best, not

only from the wonderful world in which they live, but also from the people who surround them.

Funny how quickly things can change.

 

The Professor sometimes allowed himself this selfish session of regressive thinking.

Not only did he enjoy the memories of his youth and of his father, it also helped place into

perspective the contrasted differences of adulthood and the responsibilities that come with the

knowledge gained by it. As a college professor responsible for the education of young minds

in the field of criminal psychology, one must always maintain perspective. To understand the

mind of a criminal, or any mind for that matter, it is of course important to recognize the factors

responsible for the development and ultimate product of an individual’s psyche. Professor

Fredericks knew how much influence one’s childhood could have on their adult lives. Ever

since that day many years ago when his father was murdered before his eyes, the Professor knew

first hand. This is in great part why he became a forensic psychologist, and it is also why he

maintained a personal file for each of his student’s. You never know who you can trust.

Although spying on the personal lives of his students went against every policy and

guideline set forth by the University, the Professor felt it was absolutely necessary. He kept files

for each of his students here, in his home, locked in a file cabinet in the room in which he now

sat. It would be too risky keeping the files in his office at the college. If the college somehow

discovered he kept such personal information on his students, he would at the very least be

reprimanded and, more likely, terminated.

 

Within any given file, the Professor kept records of everything he thought might be

useful in determining the mindset of the student. He kept medical records which would indicate

any potential drug habits as well as reports of possible domestic violence either perpetrated

against them or by them. He also kept other criminal records as well as any media-related items

and articles from local newspapers and school newspapers that may have been generated as a

result of a student’s mischief. A complete family history was also included along with their

academic reports dating back through their elementary school years. The majority of these

reports were obtained through a little novice hacking of the college’s computer system, the

internet or by photocopying documents hijacked from the school’s office of the registrar. Some

of the information contained within these files could not be obtained through any published or

public source. For the really good stuff he hired a private detective.

 

He wondered sometimes how his student’s would react if they ever found out that most

days, when they were not in class or studying in their dorms, that their personal lives were being

recorded, documented and filmed. The Professor had spent countless hours reading reports

created by a private detective or watching video of them living out their personal lives. The

Professor knew, with the exception of a few elusive students, who within his class drank too

much, did drugs, if they were straight or gay, who they interacted with, what kind of food they

ate, who they were sleeping with – if anyone, and what kind of car they drove and even how

they drove it. He knew what stores they shopped at and he even knew how much money they

had in their bank accounts to go shopping with. There wasn’t much the Professor did not know.

However, there was at least one thing he had not been able to uncover.

 

He had learned through these reports, along with a little deduction, that a growing group

of students had been meeting privately over the last couple months. What it is they were meeting

about remained a mystery. Mysteries don’t settle well with the Professor. He liked to know

what his students were up to. This is why he decided to spend this Friday evening on a mission

of discovery. Later he would once again follow this group himself and give the P.I. a night off.

Besides, with all of this thought about his childhood, the professor felt inclined to be like a child

again and set out on an adventure.

 

He glanced at his watch; an expensive Rolex. He had plenty of time before he had

to leave and he knew just how he would pass the time. The professor settled further into his

comfortable leather chair, once again allowing himself to revisit the memories of his youth.

There was one memory in particular he cherished especially. This beloved memory was a

mental movie that played over and over again upon the silver screen of his mind. Knowing he

would be unable to stop it from playing, even had he wanted to, he easily surrendered to his

thoughts and allowed the aged and spotted film to roll.

 

He took another sip of merlot then closed his eyes and smiled.

 

Motive will be available in the spring of this coming year.  It will be available initially on Amazon.com and a few other places.

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Ben Goldacre joins the line-up for the ‘School Dinners’

SCHOOL DINNERS

Saturday 26th October 2013
Central Foundation Boys’ School, Cowper Street, London EC2A 4SH
6:30pm-10:30pm
Tickets: £60 + bf per head
www.schooldinners.info

The only thing that interferes with my learning is my education – Albert Einstein

SCHOOL DINNERS is a groundbreaking fine dining experience, introducing provocative cultural engagement in a distinctly ‘old school’ environment.

Today we can reveal that best-selling author, broadcaster, campaigner, medical doctor and academic Ben Goldacre has joined the impressive selection of guests speakers. Ben specialises in unpicking the misuse of science and statistics by journalists, politicians, quacks, drug companies, and more. His first book ‘Bad Science’ sold over 500,000 copies and reached #1 in the UK non-fiction charts.

The first event will also feature teacher turned performance poet Mark Grist, DJ, teacher, wordsmith and leader of London’s Run Dem Crew, Charlie Dark, and exquisite visionary vocalist ESKA. The full line-up, featuring other incredible teachers, speakers and raconteurs will be announced in the coming weeks.

Brought to you by cutting edge promoters Jack Arts (Red Bull Music Academy, Book Slam) and maestros of the pop-up menu, Cult Events (Pisco Fuego, The Candlestick Maker), SCHOOL DINNERS takes our students back to school for a slap up meal that nods playfully to those unlamented lunches of childhood, before an hour’s wit and wisdom from some of the nation’s finest and funniest minds.

Fuelled by our belief (sadly from personal experience) that education can be wasted on the young, SCHOOL DINNERS will be a unique night of gastronomy and enlightenment, while also providing much-needed funds for the Central Foundation Boys’ School.

Tickets are onsale now priced £60 + bf per person, which includes a four course meal and canapés. To buy tickets and for more info on School Dinners visit www.schooldinners.info

This Is Where I Am by Karen Campbell | Book Review

ThisiswhereIambookreviewI seem to be on a bit of a winning streak when it comes to reviewing books. The last three have all been fantastic pieces of literature. This Is Where I Am is a stunning book. Definitely in my Top 10 of all time now. This story about a Somalian refugee and his daughter fleeing war and immigrating to Glasgow, and their mentor who helps them integrate into society is a book of life, reality, grief, death and hope. This makes it sound like a sad book, in many ways it is, but, like life itself, it is intertwined with happiness and the beauty of life itself, of human connection.

This book by Scottish writer Karen Campbell also made me rather homesick. Although I grew up in the Scottish Borders and have now lived in London for over seven years, it made me miss Glasgow as I lived there for a good few years. The book is also written partly in Glaswegian. You don’t have need a dictionary to read it and I quite like the poetry of it. It adds to the atmosphere of the book. Each Section is a different month and tourist place in Glasgow, with a little bit of historical facts at the beginning. To get you started on some Glaswegian here is a quick guide:

 

Heid – Head
Flair – Floor
Greet – Cry
Messages – Food shopping
Wee – Little
Juice – Cold drinks, not tea
Canny – can’t
Bahookie – Bottom
Tae – to

The brilliance of the book is that you see Glasgow fresh through the eyes of Abdi, the refugee, and Deborah, the Scottish woman mourning her dead husband who mentors Abdi.

The story is brilliant and the difference between white British Middle Class life and that of refugees in Somalia gives an accurate glimpse of the unfairness of life. How circumstance is all the difference between a good life and a terrible one. On the day I finished reading this book there were stories in the papers of displaced women in Somalia, proving that the travesties of war have long-term consequences.

This book is 467 pages long. It is so good I read it in a few days. This Is Where I Am can take its place as a great Scottish book, but also as a great story about human rights. A must read.

This Is Where I Am

Birth Made Easy Book Review

birth made easyI have previously interviewed Paola Bagnall. She had a lot of great things to say about giving birth. Now, let’s get down to the book.

The book has a great overview of pregnancy, both Pre and Post. It also comes with a free self hypnosis CD. For those interested in hypnobirthing (and there are rumours that Kate Middleton has joined them) this book is great. Paola believes that pregnancy is not a medical thing but a natural thing that the body is supposed to do. Although I don’t agree that pregnancy is not a medical thing, her ideas are interesting and certainly have merit. She is a qualified hypnotherapist and healed her own shoulder using the power of her mind.

This book has a lot of great information in it for any mother-to-be. Chapter one is about hypnosis and other chapters are about breathing, the biology of the female body, and the biology of birth. They are all very informative and fascinating.

There is also a chapter on how to use the CD. In the getting ready for birth chapter there are a lot of great tips, followed by an entire chapter or problem solving in, ‘What To Do if You Have….’ Nausa and vomiting are covered. As are C-sections and having a large baby.

The books tells you how to use the three stages of hynothearapy for the birth in an easy to understand way and has an entire chapter on how to disassociate yourself from the feelings of the contractions.

The last two chapters are what to do after the birth, a great chapter with some exercises on how to get back into shape, health tips, and enjoying your time as a mother.

This is a very good book for women who want a natural birth, and even has great tips for those who don’t. I can’t say it has convinced me to have a natural birth when I decide to have children, but the information is there for those who do.

Birth Made Easy – The positive and enjoyable way to have a baby easily and naturally using self-hypnosis

Interview with Birth Made Easy Author Paola Bagnall

birth made easyFor our readers who are mothers-to-be we interviewed Paola Bagnall, author of Birth Made Easy. The book review is here. In the meantime enjoy the interview and please comment your thoughts below. Thank you.

I really liked how the book had advice on every aspect of pregnancy and birth. What is the biggest gem you can give to mothers-to-be?

 

To look forward to the birth with excitement and to work with your intuition and trust that your body is designed to give birth, which it is.

 

The book is big on relaxation, is this the most important thing when giving birth? How does one achieve this?

 

Yes relaxation is very important. The late Dr Grantley Dick-Read (1890 – 1959) visited a woman giving birth at her home in Whitechapel in London.  She declined his offer of chloroform, and gave birth without undue problem.  After the delivery, he asked her why she did not want chloroform and she replied, “It didn’t hurt.  It wasn’t meant to, was it?”.  Dr Dick-Reid actually said then that relaxation is the key to a good birth and in his book, Childbirth without Fear, he returned to women their rightful gift of a truly natural birth.

 

Today we are told that giving birth is painful and so many people believe this.  TV programmes like One Born Every Minute also reinforce this.  When you are relaxed you cannot feel fear and this is what hypnobirthing is all about.

 

Relaxation is achieved by visualisation of a favourite place, the use of colours, focusing on the breath and self-hypnosis – all of which are described in the book.  When you are relaxed your body opens up easily and so the baby flows out.

 

What was your own experience of pregnancy and giving birth like?

 

I have two sons and I gave birth to both naturally and relatively easily. The first one took six hours and the second eleven hours.  I am a biologist as well as a hypnotherapist and so I knew that my body could do this and also I was very excited about the process and looking forward to the experience.

 

When I gave birth 39 years ago we were given Pethidine automatically to help with the contractions.  I hated this as it caused me to hallucinate!  I wish I knew then what I know now about self-hypnosis as I would have been much more in control than I was.  Even so both my births were empowering experiences!

 

The book is about giving birth naturally. Do you think a natural birth is better?

 

If you can give birth naturally, I personally feel this is best because it should be a magical, empowering experience, where you are in control.  A natural birth also prevents the side effects of intervention and chemical drugs.

 

When someone has a headache or a medical procedure they generally use painkiller, why not do so when giving birth? It is the only medical thing that some people do without the help of painkillers. How is it different?

 

I’d just like to say that birth is not a medical thing!  It is a natural process and as such is not meant to hurt.  It is the medics in fact who have made it painful.

 

All pain is subjective and different for different people. If you think ‘pain’ then you get ‘pain’.  I feel contractions are different from ‘pain’.  They are intense pressure, good pressure, as they result in the birth of your baby.  I have suffered pain far worse than my contractions.  So think ‘good contractions’ and this alters your mind-set.

 

Of course using painkillers (epidural) may be what some people want and that is OK.

My book does not suggest that you have to have a natural birth.  This is a choice that the mum-to-be must make.  I simply suggest ways to achieve that goal.

 

Do you think the power of the mind can control the body?

 

Most definitely! We have the expression “mind over matter”.  We have the most amazing resource in our unconscious minds that most of us do not tap into.  By using positive affirmations and self-hypnosis we can use this innate ability we all have to make changes in ourselves for the better.

 

I got into hypnotherapy as I had a very painful shoulder injury that the medical profession could not help me with.  I learned to tap into this inner power and heal my shoulder using self-hypnosis. This is what showed me how useful self-hypnosis could be in giving birth. And why I created my own Inner Power Hypnobirthing.

 

Will everyone be able to achieve a natural birth?

 

A natural birth may not happen for everyone, as things just do happen which make it not possible.  If the baby is breach, or with complete placenta previa, where the placenta covers the exit for the baby, or if the baby is distressed in any way, then a C-Section has to be done in the best interests of the mother and baby.  However, hypnobirthing helps you to remain calm and in control in such situations.

 

Do you think you can get back into shape easily after giving birth as long as you work hard?

 

Yes, I do, though this is easier for some people than others.  Part of my hypnobirthing package is to help mums get back to their pre-pregnancy weight, shape and dimensions.  Simple exercises as shown in my book and a sensible diet help to achieve this.

 

Tell us about the self-hypnosis CD.

 

The self-hypnosis CD is to be listened to on a daily basis prior to the birth.  It uses visualisation, colour and positive affirmations to programme the unconscious mind to have a natural childbirth.  It is a bit like putting a program into a computer.  When you hit ‘play’ the program starts.  So the trigger for my CD is the first contraction, or the waters breaking, and then the entire program goes into effect almost automatically.  The CD takes you through pregnancy, the three stages of birth, healing up after the birth, bonding with the baby, breast-feeding easily (if you choose to do this) and getting your figure back.

 

What is the best advice you have for women giving birth?

 

Getting yourself into a positive frame of mind using hypnobirthing and start this as early as you can in your pregnancy so you have a beneficial expectation and you look forward to the birth with joyful anticipation.

Thank you Paola.

Birth Made Easy – The positive and enjoyable way to have a baby easily and naturally using self-hypnosis

 

Unleash The Power Of The Female Brain | Book Review

Unleash the power of the female brainThe brain is probably the most underrated organ and the one that is most taken advantage of. Yet everything we do affects our brain.

Renowned neuropsychiatrist and best selling author Dr Daniel G. Amen has written a comprehensive guide to the female brain. The amount of stuff I learned was amazing. The book says that all is needed is 12 hours to a radical new you, and I agree with their claim. I have already made changes in my life because of this book.

Dr Amen has based this breakthrough guide on research from his clinical practice. The book has pictures of brain scans throughout. These brain scans are ‘before’ and ‘after’, like make-overs for the brain. The book is a health guide that every women should read because, as Dr Amen says, “success in everything you do starts with a healthy brain.”

Dr Amen also talks you through harnessing the strengths of the female brain and overcoming the vulnerabilities. He tells you what to eat, and what not to, how to control your cravings, how to sooth your brain and even how to prepare for pregnancy and raising your children in a brain-healthy way.

This book put my diet under the microscope and made me realise that all of the stress I have been under, and my habit of craving junk food is stopping me achieving my full potential. Although sometimes Dr Amen came across as (only slightly) preachy. No one can be a saint all the time and I still believe that a little bit of what you fancy won’t do you any harm. Despite this I could rave on and on about the book, but I won’t; I will just say that it is a must read. I will be reading it again. It certainly did change my life and make me appreciate my brain.

Unleash the Power of the Female Brain: Supercharging yours for better health, energy, mood, focus and sex

This is how the book breaks down:

1. FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR FEMALE BRAIN: Care About Your Brain More than Any Other Body Part
Hour 1 Exercise – Boost brain envy – Hang anchor images of why you want to have a healthier brain

2. HARNESS THE UNIQUE STRENGTHS OF THE FEMALE BRAIN: Use Your Intuition, Collaboration, Empathy, Self-Control, and a Little Worry to Give Yourself a Great Advantage
Hour 2 Exercise – Recruit Your Team and Make Your Worries Work for You – this is what I would call a form of the Serenity Prayer which is a consistent go-to in my life

3. ADOPT THE AMEN CLINICS’ METHOD FOR OPTIMIZING THE FEMALE BRAIN:: Know Your Brain, Important Numbers, and the Four Circles for Ultimate Success
Hour 3 Exercise – Get Assessed: CBC and on Amen’s website (SPECT optional)

4. BALANCE YOUR HORMONES TO BOOST THE FEMALE BRAIN
Part One: Balance Estrogen, Progesterone, and Testosterone
Part Two: Balance Thyroid, Cortisol, DHEA, and Insulin
Hour 4 Exercise – Take the Hormone Questionnaires and Inventory Your Healthy and Unhealthy Hormone Habits

5. FEED THE FEMALE BRAIN: Flatten Your Tummy and Boost Brain Reserves by Healing Your Gut and Eating Brain-Healthy Superfoods – Treat Food as a Drug because it is one
Hour 5 Exercise – Provide Therapy for your Kitchen (Food/Diet)

6. SOOTHE THE FEMALE BRAIN: Put an End to Anxiety, Worry, Depression, and Perfectionism
Hour 6 Exercise – Get ANT Therapy and Answer the Work’s Four Questions

7. GET CONTROL OF THE FEMALE BRAIN: Conquer Cravings, Weight Issues, and Addictions
Hour 7 Exercise – Embrace Your Failures (Turn bad days into good data)

8. UNDERSTAND ADD AND THE FEMALE BRAIN: Learn to Treat the Hyperactive “Boys'” Condition That Ruins Female Lives
Hour 8 Exercise – Know Your Focus and Energy Robbers and Boosters

9. BE BEAUTIFUL ON THE INSIDE AND OUT: Learn Strategies to Help Your Brain and Body Look Amazing – Stop the Negative Chatter and Make a Plan to Look and Feel Amazing
Hour 9 Exercise – Get a Massage and Enjoy a Sauna

10. UNDERSTAND SEX AND THE FEMALE BRAIN: Optimize Your Brain for Greater Pleasure, Deeper Relationships, and Lasting Love
Hour 10 Exercise – Be the Director of Your Pleasure

11. GET YOUR BRAIN READY FOR BABIES AND CARING FOR THEIR BRAINS ONCE THEY’RE HERE: Prepare for Pregnancy – and Unleash the Power of Your Daughters’ Brains
Hour 11 Exercise – Indulge in Special Time

12. CHANGE YOUR FEMALE BRAIN, CHANGE THE WORLD: Realize That It’s Not About You – It’s About Generations of You
Hour 12 Exercise – Create Your Own Genius Network

APPENDIX A; NATURAL SUPPLEMENTS TO HELP YOU UNLEASH THE POWER OF YOUR FEMALE BRAIN

Make the most of your relationship –top ten tips by Sarah Rozenthuler,

Make the most of your relationship –top ten tips

by Sarah Rozenthuler, author of Life-Changing Conversations

 

Sarah Rozenthuler author of Life-Changing Conversations, 7 strategies for Talking about What Matters Most draws together tools from the field of dialogue, insights from the discipline of psychology and wisdom from a contemporary articulation of spirituality. This potent mix can transform how we talk together and how we act in the world and our lives.

 

As Valentine’s Day approaches, love is in the air. It’s easy to be swept away by the romance—the candlelit dinner, the bunch of fresh blooms, the softly playing music—the “pinkness” of it all. But love has many colours, including some deep and dark hues, so it can also be timely to ask: What does it take to make a relationship work?

 

Our intimate interactions with our beloved can be a source of great joy—and immense stress—in our lives. Whether you want to rekindle some of the magic, heal some hurt or deepen your joy, here are ten top tips for a happy and harmonious relationship.

 

1.    Put that phone away

 

Give your partner some quality time by having a “media break”. Switch off the TV, put down your phone and turn off your tablet. Make your beloved the object of your attention rather than checking your emails. Even if it’s only for 10 minutes, take time to listen to what your partner has to say and then reflect back what you’ve heard.

 

Resist the temptation to interrupt. Let them finish their sentence. Listening receptively is a powerful aphrodisiac that can soften the hardest of hearts.

 

2.    Create a shared vision

 

A long-lasting relationship is all about standing shoulder-to-shoulder, facing the same direction. When a relationship ends, the most painful part is often the loss of shared dreams.

 

To strengthen your bond, create a “vision board” together. Recycle your old magazines by cutting out inspiring images and use these to create a collage. Place it where you can both see it every day so that you consciously “call in” what you want as a couple.

 

3.    Spice up your sex life

 

If the physical side of your relationship has become routine, take a risk and do something different. Go to a sex shop together, do a tantra workshop or join the mile high club.

 

If you’re stuck for ideas, ask your partner for a memory of some great sex they had (with you!) and see what you can learn to re-create some of that excitement. It might be making love in front of an open fire, having sex in the kitchen or taking time to massage each other. Savour the specialness of this side of your relationship.

 

4.    Monitor your mood

 

Be aware that partners are susceptible to absorbing each other’s moods. This can be great when one of you has had a good day but it can be a real downer when one person’s bad day at the office contaminates you both. 

 

To combat the contagious effects of negativity, develop some strategies for shifting state when you’re down in the dumps. Take a five minute walk round the block, sit and watch the sun go down or enjoy taking in the scent of some fresh flowers. Each  of you needs to take responsibility for your own state of being so that your moods become mutually enriching.

 

5.    Have some fun

 

A relationship can be hard work as you each try to find ways to accommodate the other’s needs, wants and desires. Differences of opinion can cause tension and unresolved conflicts can lead to contempt.

 

To counterbalance the heavy lifting, make a mutual commitment to spend time together doing things that you enjoy. Go to the cinema, take a dance class or plan your next holiday. Find things that bring a smile—or even better, some belly laughs—and agree to do these things regularly. Remember that when you fell in love, your inner child felt alive and well. Nurture that part of you and your relationship will reap the rewards.

 

6.    Keep the romance

 

Cherish your partner by doing things that make them feel special. Treat them to something you know they’ll love whether it’s cooking their favourite meal, running a hot bath or playing their favourite track of music.

 

As you go about your day, bookmark memorable moments in your mind to share with your partner when you next see them. It’s the kind of thing you probably did when your love was freshly minted, so bring some of that attentive energy into your relationship now. 

 

7.    Invest in your relationship skills

 

If your relationship has become riddled with tension, get some help. Identify what the core issue is and search out ways to deal with it. If, for example, you have a temper that is toxic to the relationship, book yourself onto an anger management workshop or at the very least read a book such as Beating Anger by Mike Fisher.

 

Expand your communication skills by practising the tools contained in Creating the Love you Want by Harville Hendrix or in my own book, Life-Changing Conversations.  Keeping the air clear and free of past resentments will do wonders for you both.

 

8.    Have some “me” time

 

Although it may sound somewhat paradoxical, it’s important to spend time apart when you’re in coupleland. It’s a tragedy that many people lose themselves in a relationship and feel “less than” they were before—less attractive, less interesting, less fulfilled.

 

To minimise the risk of this, take regular doses of your own company. Do whatever it takes to stay grounded in your own experience whether this is through going for a walk, writing your journal or listening to music. Some breathing space will invigorate your relationship, not least because you’ll have things to share with your partner.

 

9.    Decide how you decide

 

Many a relationship has suffered as a result of one individual making decisions without consulting their partner. It can leave the other person reeling, feeling that their opinion doesn’t matter. Any couple will benefit from having a conversation about how they make decisions together, for example, agreeing up front the sum of money above which a decision must be joint.

 

For significant decisions, agree that you’ll both take time separately to consider the different options and then share your thoughts. Moving from “me” to “we” in this way maximises the likelihood that you’ll reach decisions that take into account each person’s perspective. Finding practical ways of integrating both individual’s needs is a key relationship skill.

 

10.  See the bigger picture

 

Drop your expectations that your partner is there to make you happy. If you’re expecting them to provide you with something you haven’t brought into the relationship yourself, you may be making the biggest mistake of your life. Ask yourself how you can evolve into a bigger version of yourself without demanding anything of your partner.

 

Place what is happening in your relationship into the larger context of how you are growing as an individual. Are you becoming more sensitive, more selfless or more savvy? Staying in touch with the bigger picture will stop you from retreating to your corner and enable you to create a life-enhancing relationship.

 

Sarah Rozenthuler

 

Author of Life-Changing Conversations

 

www.sarahrozenthuler.com