My Writing Process – Emma Eker.

I’m a searcher – always have been, potentially always will be. I’ve questioned the status quo from the moment I had the capacity to do so – finding myself dissatisfied and unconvinced with the answers I was given. I mention this so you may understand that I spent my whole life pushing boundaries, rebelling against ‘the machine’ and searching for the Truth. This quest came with a restlessness that ensured I couldn’t stay still for any substantial amount of time, moving from place to place, job to job and person to person for as long as I can remember – I was always trying to get ‘there’… destination unknown. 

What you have written, past and present.

Apart from writing a teenage diary, essays for my psychology training, helping friends formulate emails and blogging through social media, my professional writing CV, up until this point, has been limited! Until recent years, although with a great love for writing, I am not sure that I considered utilising this in any particular way, either professionally or for any paid or altruistic offering – it simply wasn’t in my consciousness awareness to do so.

What you are promoting now.

My book is called “Liberation”. It has been a labour of love and is predominantly a solution-based memoir, highlighting my journey through life – moving through addiction, heartache, temporary loss of Self and many of the trappings of the human experience. I have always been solution-based, always aware that life is magic and benevolent and therefore I could not, would not, write a book relating to struggle without presenting the reader with a solution. Too many books in the mainstream point to the ‘problem’, providing identification but little or no hope for the eradication of that which the reader may be battling with. I believe we are all whole and perfect, but for our belief systems and this is what Liberation allows the reader to see. 

3. A bit about your process of writing.

If anyone is looking for ‘good advice’ from me in this area, they may be disappointed! My writing process has been totally haphazard. Some days / weeks I would be in ‘the zone’, writing flowing, immersed in the creative process and other times, my laptop would be left unattended whilst I found it more important to do absolutely nothing at all! Many a time I have found myself in judgement around my process, but I have come to see that everything happens perfectly and in divine timing. What I will say is this, I have learnt to hear and to listen to the still quiet voice within me that taps gently in order to gain my attention and nudges me in the right direction. When the ‘knowing’ comes knocking, I know it’s time to put fingers to keyboard. 

4. Do you plan or just write?

Absolutely no planning whatsoever. I truly trust my writing process and I go with what feels right, rather than what I could have set out in black and white with regard to a structure. I have never worked logically, despite being thrown into a system that required it. I must be honest and say I don’t think I ever planned any of the book at all. Everyone’s process is different though and we need to find what works best for us which is simply a matter of trial and error. I know that when I sit down in front of my computer with the intention to write, the words will flow through me and if they don’t, I recognise it isn’t the right time. For me, the trick is to take my thinking mind out of it and go with the (creative) flow.

· What about word count?

With “Liberation”, there was no specific word count. I made the decision to self-publish rather than write for a traditional publishing house who may have required a certain length of manuscript.   

· How do you do your structure?

There was no specific structure, although, before I made the decision to self-publish, I was in discussions with a traditional publishing company who had asked me to draw up a synopsis and provide a rough chapter breakdown. I did, on some level, find this helpful to refer to as the writing process began. I held the structure loosely, understanding that the ‘story’ would unfold and become clearer as time moved on. Therefore, the format continually changed as the writing flowed and took on different directions, but it was useful to at least know the direction in which I was headed.  

· What do you find hard about writing?

At many times, thoughts, ideas and words would flow into my mind incredibly quickly and leave just as quickly making it difficult at points (not to mention incredibly frustrating) to grab hold of and capture them. Because I have a perfectionist within me, I would find myself continually editing, editing and re-editing some more which again, can be incredibly frustrating. I have however learnt, that if there is something that needs language which I temporarily ‘forget’, it will revisit me again to make its way onto the page. Moving out of my own way to make way for the creative process has also been a challenge for me, left vs right brain – practice is the name of the game. 

· What do you love about writing?

It’s an interesting question. Is it enough to say that it feels like an extension of who I am? I love putting words together and creating something that touches or resonates with another human being in order to gain identification and understanding. The ‘writing zone’ is a very real thing and I love getting lost in here.

· Advice for other writers.

If you feel there is something you have to offer and have a desire to write, trust it. Do not give up. It does not always feel easy to take what is inside of us and give language to it ‘out there’ and at many times you may feel you are in a battle with and up against yourself, but you must trust your heartfelt desire to do it. For if it wasn’t yours to do, you would not have the desire in the first place. And remember, everything has its ‘perfect’ time, so trust that too!

 

Liberation by Emma Eker is out by Spiffing Covers on 28 January. You can buy a copy of Liberation by Emma Eker via her website or Amazon.

 

What I Have Been Reading By Catherine Balavage

michael connelly the night fire

Michael Connelly The Night Fire. 

Michael Connelly is without doubt one of the best crime writers ever. He makes it look easy to write a crime novel because his books flow so well. More fool anyone who tries to imitate him. This one from his Harry Bosch series is a novel to really get your teeth into. An epic thriller. The prisoner's wife. maggie brookes

The Prisoner’s Wife by Maggie Brookes.

This is an absolute triumph of a book. It is based on a true story of a Czech woman who posed as a man in a Nazi prisoner of war camp to stay with her British husband. It is riveting and the stuff of Hollywood films. It is well-researched like all the best historical fiction. It can be heart-breaking, but it is also a story of courage and hope. michael connelly fair warning Fair Warning by Michael Connelly. 

Another Connelly novel. This one I loved more than the other. It was sleek, smart and just perfect. It throws up interesting questions about DNA ancestry sites too. Connelly is a master of his craft and his novels are absolute perfection.
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When You See Me by Lisa Gardner.

This is the first book I have ever read by Lisa Gardner and now I am wondering if I have been living underneath a rock. Wow. Just wow. What a writer, what a novel. I don’t usually read crime novels – I am a of a nervous disposition- but I will be seeking out Lisa’s other books now. It is no surprise Lisa is a New York Times bestseller. She sets the scene perfectly and her characters have so much depth. I also love that the FBI agents are female and their husband, also FBI agents, are taking care of the kids at home. Lisa Gardner is a much needed female voice in the world of thriller writers.
this time next year sophie cousens,

This Time Next Year by Sophie Cousens

This is a beautiful and brilliant novel. A romance novel with no hint of cliche. It has plenty to say and characters who are impossible to not fall in love with. Set in a 2020 where Covid 19 did not happen, this was the future we all deserved. I loved this book so much. It is so clever and pitch perfect. Sophie Cousens is one to watch.

a wish for the shipyard girls

A Christmas Wish for the Shipyard Girls by Nancy Revell. 

A perfect historical fiction saga novel. Like a warm hug on a Sunday evening. Make yourself a cocoa and dive in. Brilliant.
debbie macomber a walk along the beach,

A Walk Along the Beach by Debbie Macomber. 

Debbie Macomber is a New York Times bestseller and an author of over 100 books. There is a reason for her popularity, she is a master of her craft. This heart-warming tale of the love of two sisters has its sadness, but ultimately it is a story of love and beautiful rewards.

Alex Dahl, playdate

Playdate by Alex Dahl. 

Wow is what I want to say about this tightly wound thriller. The plot has you hooked all the way to the last page, your brain working the entire time. It is set in a sleepy Norwegian town, a perfect and atmospheric setting. I usually avoid books where a child goes missing like the plague, but this book is the perfect thriller. It captures the complexity of human behaviour so well. Sometimes you do not know who you should be rooting for.  Impossible to put down.

A Girl made of air, Nydia hetherington

A Girl Made of Air by Nydia Hetherington.

What an imagination Nydia Hetherington has. A Girl Made of Air is an outstanding novel. It has to hard know how a story about a circus funambulist is going to work and yet, it does. This is a vivid tale of regret and redemption weaved into a magical book of literary perfection. What a first novel, I cannot wait to see what Nydia Hetherington does next. She truly is one to watch. The unwanted dead by Chris LloydThe Unwanted Dead by Chris Lloyd. 

This is the first in a new WW2-set crime series. It is brilliant, rip-roaring stuff. Vividly written and pitch perfect. A great historical crime novel.

Books are available from waterstones.com, amazon.co.uk, dauntbooks.co.uk and independent book stores.

Frost Loves Toolally Handmade Statement Jewellery Made in The UK.

I love finding a new brand to fall in love with. So be still my beating heart: Toolally make the most gorgeous statement jewellery. They are perfect for Christmas and beyond. To make things even better they are handmade in the UK. Love and love. Treat yourself or a loved one now. There is a reason the brand is featured on Strictly Come Dancing so much: they add glamour in abundance to any outfit.

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Maisie Smith looked sensational on Strictly Come Dancing Halloween special wearing the Arrowheads in black and gold glitter.  toolally

The earrings are available here.

Books For Christmas.

Endless Skies from Jane Cable is such a brilliant novel. I have read every single one of Jane’s books and she never disappoints.

The perfect Christmas novel from veteran saga writer Annie Clarke. Annie is in the top league of historical fiction writers. My Therapist Says

A brilliant and humorous book. Gray's Anatomy Puzzle Book

A great puzzle book for medical professionals and the rest of us. Will spark both fun and debate. I can't draw.

A brilliant book that I will be using to improve my drawing. Really good and it works. doodled cats

This is a great gift for cat people. Lots of fun.
literary places

Perfect for the literary person in your life. Which would be me, except I already have a copy. Beautifully illustrated and full of wanderlust.
baby book

Perfect for anyone expecting a baby. This follows baby for the first three years of life. It is full of prompts and ideas that you would never think of otherwise. A truly wonderful gift.
How zoologists categorise thingsThis book is a great idea. Perfect for geeks (like me) and nature lovers. You couldn't make it up, Telegraph. Humorous and fun. There is a fair amount of wit in this superb book. how to draw everything Perfect for budding artists. This book has fantastic illustrations and gives excellent step-by-step instruction on how to draw (almost) everything. Highly recommended.

Jo Pratt, the flexible family cookbook

I am obsessed with the Flexible Family Cookbook from Jo Pratt. It has so many delicious recipes (75 to be exact), along with 200 variations for allergies, intolerances and dietary choices. My copy already has a few dog-eared pages. Just brilliant.

Books are available from waterstones.com, amazon.co.uk, https://dauntbooks.co.uk and independent book stores.

Life advice from Anya Hindmarch, Stephen Fry, Joanna Lumley – A Few Wise Words

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There are two types of people in this world: those who think they know everything, and everyone else. The everyone else read great books like this and implement it into their lives. Compiled and edited by Peter Mukherjee, this book is the inspiration we all need after a tough year.

The contributors are a rich and varied bunch. There is something here for everyone. A Few Wise Words is an essential guide on conquering challenges and becoming successful. This book would make a perfect Christmas present. I cannot recommend it enough.
‘I was once told that I had three strikes against me – I was black, I was a girl and I was poor. But I was also raised to believe that I could do whatever I wanted and whatever I set my mind to achieve.’

Ursula Burns – US business leader, former CEO of Xerox

 

‘Almost everyone I have known that has found fulfilment in life, was invariably shocked

to discover that hard work is actually what they want to do, and is an

extraordinary pleasure and the most fulfilling of all things.’

Stephen Fry – Actor, television personality and writer

 

‘I do think that opportunities come along all the time for all of us, and you have

got to be ready to seize them when they do. ‘

Sir Keith Mills – Founder of Air Miles and Nectar Card

 

‘Success is often about how you deal with failure. When something goes seriously wrong, you can either give up or you can dig deep, recover your self-belief, and focus once more upon your goal. It’s all about your attitude and being positive, even when everything sometimes seems stacked against you.’

Tanni, Baroness Grey-Thompson – Politician, TV presenter and former Paralympic champion

 

 

In order to find success, we first need to find our direction…

 

When we are young, the greatest challenge we face is knowing how to find our initial direction. Where do we look? What exactly are we looking for? What talents do we have? When we are older and our journey is already underway, the questions change. How can we become the very best version of ourselves? How can we improve our game and move up? What resources can we tap into to help us?

 

A Few Wise Words is jam-packed with wisdom and advice from twenty-two exceptional individuals, all of whom have already achieved extraordinary success in their own lives. This book has been crafted to present the ultimate travelling companion and guide for our journey, enabling us to plan carefully for what lies ahead, learn how to find our passion, and discover our motivation. It will then help us to move forward with confidence and a clear understanding of what we need to do next. There are, of course, many routes that can lead to success and this book can help anyone to explore which path is the right one for them.

 

In this book – the first volume of a series – each contributor has their own unique chapter in which they define what success has meant for them, what their own journey was like, and how they managed to conquer the many challenges they had to confront along the way. Each then shares in a clear and easy to follow way, what they believe are the most important values, disciplines and actions that we should take, to enable us to successfully negotiate our own special and unique journey. Additional guidance is also provided for parents, covering the crucial role that they can play to prepare their children early, while enabling them to ‘hit the ground running’ when the serious part of their journey begins in earnest later on.

 

Compiled and edited by Peter Mukherjee, A Few Wise Words delivers a rich and varied collection of personal insights, knowledge, and advice from this exceptional group of individuals, all of whom are willing to share what they believe will enable any one of us to find our success, purpose and happiness in life. It will guide any young person, young adult or indeed, any person who has aspirations to do well in life, on how to get started and then how to stay on track. It is a book we can dip in and out of at any time during our journey for inspiration, advice and the guidance we need.

 

Contributor Chapters

 

Sir Ben Ainslie • Frank Arnesen • Zak Brown • Ursula Burns • Sir Roger Carr • Sherry Coutu • Pablo Ettinger

Mikhail Fridman • Stephen Fry • Dame Katherine Grainger • Tanni, Baroness Grey-Thompson • Anya Hindmarch

Declan Kelly • Martha, Baroness Lane-Fox • Joanna Lumley • Dame Carolyn McCall • Sir Keith Mills • Vin Murria

Danielle de Niese Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks • Shriti Vadera • Sir Clive Woodward

 

A Few Wise Words is out on 16th November and available from Amazon and leading booksellers. www.afewwisewords.com

 

Didn’t See That Coming By Rachel Hollis Book Review

Rachel Hollis, Didn't see that coming, book, book review. Didn’t See That Coming could be the slogan for 2020 and this book is the essential read to help us all through it. Written with searing honesty, Rachel Hollis has wisdom in spades and she is here to share it. Rachel has suffered trauma and grief and now she has a blueprint to get through to the other end. Rachel Hollis is a truly inspirational person and if we all had her attitude and resilience the world would be a better place and we would all be much happier. Get your hands on a copy of Didn’t See That Coming and improve your life forever. 

In a departure from Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing, Rachel Hollis offers her devoted followers and new readers an aspirational guide to seizing the difficult moments for the learning experiences that they are, and finding value in them.

When the pandemic hit, Rachel found herself in a place that is also familiar now—facing immense grief, fear, anxiety, and worry about the world around us. As a mother of four, motivational speaker, and CEO of a company she built from the ground up, she realised that in order to get through this challenging time, she needed to reframe how she was approaching everything. Having survived crisis and grief many times herself, she believed she might be able to share what she knew and what she’d done so that she could help others walk through this hard time too.

DIDN’T SEE THAT COMING shares how to embrace the difficult moments in life for the learning experiences they are, and shows that a life well-lived is one of purpose – focused on the essentials.

 

The Life We Almost Had by Amelia Henley | Book Review

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The Life We Almost Had has the twist least likely to be guessed of any book I can think of. The book is clever and well done. Of course the book is a love story, but it is a unique one. The book is unbearably sad in places, yet it pulls you up. It keeps you guessing all of the way to the end. Highly recommended reading, this book is a triumph for Amelia Henley. 

Anna wasn’t looking for love when Adam swept her off her feet but there was no denying their connection, and she believed they would be together forever. Years later, cracks have appeared in their relationship. Anna is questioning whether their love can really be eternal when a cruel twist of fate delivers a crushing blow, and Anna and Adam are completely lost to one another. Now, Anna needs Adam more than ever, but the way back to him has life-changing consequences. Is a second chance at first love really worth the sacrifice? Anna needs to decide and time is running out…

A beautiful and emotional love story that asks, how far would you go for a second chance at first love? Perfect for fans of The Man Who Didn’t Call and Miss You.

Amelia Henley is a hopeless romantic who has a penchant for exploring the intricacies of relationships through writing heart-breaking, high-concept love stories. Amelia also writes psychological thrillers under her real name, Louise Jensen. As Louise Jensen she has sold over a million copies of her global number one bestsellers. Her stories have been translated into twenty-five languages and optioned for TV as well as featuring on the USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestsellers list. Louise’s books have been nominated for multiple awards. The Life We Almost Had is the first story she’s written as Amelia Henley and she can’t wait to share it with readers.

Melanzane Parmigiana Recipe | Cooking

Parmigiana di Melanzane, aubergine, bake, recipe, melanzane, Everyone has their signature dish. My melanzane parmigiana is mine. Now my signature dish has changed over the years. It used to be spaghetti bolognese and lasagne. Both are simple and easy to make, but no one makes them better than I do.

My family and I rarely eat beef anymore so we have moved on to this tasty vegetarian dish. It is easy to make and so healthy. Well, until I load it with cheese. Ha.

You need:

An aubergine.

Two cans of tinned tomatoes.

An onion.

Two packets of Mozzarella. You can always add another type of cheese. I tend to use cheddar or red leicester to top it.

Two bulbs of garlic.

Olive Oil, pepper and salt to season.

You can also add basil and some bread crumbs on top. The Italians do not add breadcrumbs so neither do I. 

Cut the aubergine into even slices. Preheat the oven to 200 for a fan oven. Lay the aubergine on a baking tray. Add some olive oil, salt and pepper to season. I am generous with the olive oil. Pop it in the oven for twenty minutes.

While the aubergine is cooking chop the onion and the garlic. Add it to a pan with a little butter. Cook until the onions are golden. Then add two tins of chopped tomatoes to the pan. Leave it to cook, stirring occasionally.  Chop up the mozzarella and grate any cheese you are adding.

Take the aubergine out and lay out in a roasting dish. Add some of the sauce and then aubergine, more sauce and then the mozzarella. I do aubergine, mozzarella, auberinge and then mozzarella on top, along with the grated cheese. Pop it in the oven for forty-five minutes.

It is ready when the top is crispy and the sauce has been reduced. It tastes amazing with basil. you can add the basil to the sauce or on top. The best thing about this recipe is that there is usually leftovers. You can also change things to suit yourself. Add two aubergines if you are a bigger family and more onions if you like.

I hope you enjoy this recipe. Let me know if you make it and please share any signature recipes of your own.