Julia Dowling, Managing Director of Snapdragon Parties, shares her tips on dinner parties

People don’t come to a dinner party for the quality of food, they come for the company and to be entertained. Many hosts make the mistake of putting too much time into the food and not enough time into other things.

1. Invite: set the tone, first off by the way that you invite people. While it’s old fashioned and highly unusual, hand written invites, particularly on ‘at home cards’ are classy and a great way to invite people to a dinner party.

2. Connect: a good host thinks about the connections between people – a successful dinner party is one where people get on. When you think about who to invite, think about who you believe will genuinely get on together, particularly if they don’t know each other.

3. Plan: plan the flow of your evening and inject some pieces of originality into the way you do things. Decorate your home, try to serve your guests something a little unusual during the course of the evening, such as an unusual dry sherry as a pre-dinner aperitif, or for an injection of entertainment, get in a mixologist.

4. Embellish: find a way to use candles and flowers intelligently without breaking the bank. A beautifully laid table helps the food taste better!

5. Breathe: as a general rule, red wine should be served at room temperature, opened in advance and poured into a decanter to let it ‘breathe’ – allowing the oxygen to bring out its flavour. However, with particularly mature red wine (15 years old or more), you should be careful about opening it too long in advance as old wine can ‘deteriorate’ relatively quickly.

6. Match: give consideration to food and wine pairings – there are many good examples on the web. Take people a little off piste to introduce them to something new and get them talking.

7. Eat: Although it might open up a whole can of worms, make sure you are aware of any intolerances or allergies and look after your vegetarian guests every bit as much as the others!

8. Listen: make sure there is a good flow of conversation (each guest should be involved) and be careful with your music choices. If you have music playing whilst you eat make sure it doesn’t make it difficult to talk.

9. Sit: really think about the seating plan and don’t leave it to chance. Don’t worry about the boy-girl thing too much and if people are having a ball don’t insist everyone moves.

10. Relax: Remember that this is a dinner party in your home. Relax and entertain, don’t feel like you need to be on parade. If you aren’t enjoying yourself, your guests won’t be either. If something goes wrong make a joke of it and don’t worry. Line up some taxis to arrive at midnight to ensure your guests get home in comfort.