30 Days of Gratitude Day Twenty #30daysofgratitude

Today I am grateful for good manners. I see a lot of stuff on social media, or overhear conversations where people complain about the lack of manners in today’s society. And that is sometimes true, but in my experience there are plenty of people with good manners. For every person who does not thank you when you open the door for them (yell ‘you’re welcome’ at them. It’s really satisfying) there are people who go out of their way for you. I remember struggling to get the pram and the shopping through the door of my apartment block and having a man in a van stop, roll down the window, and ask if he could help. I told him it was okay as I did not want to inconvenience him, but another two people also offered to help in this instance. I see a lot of this when I am out and about with my son. People holding doors, smiling, offering to help with shopping, even giving advice. It makes me happy. The worst is when people are not only rude, but also ungrateful. Ingratitude is one of the worst traits a person can have. So let’s all think of some things we are grateful for today. It leaves you feeling happier and healthier. Promise.

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Catch up on other days:

Day 1.
Day 2.

Day 3.

Day 4.

Day 5.

Day 6.

Day 7.

Day 8.

Day 9.

Day 10,

Day 11.

Day 12.

Day 13.

Day 14.

Day 15.

Day 16.

Day 17.

Day 18.

Day 19.

What are you grateful for?

 

A Guide To Umbrella Etiquette

The worst thing about bad weather isn’t the rain: it is the fact that people don’t need to take a spacial awareness test before buying an umbrella. Yes, you are dry but everyone else is maimed or injured. These little contraptions tend to bring out the selfishness of people and give scars to the rest of us. So with that in mind, here is the Frost guide to umbrella etiquette.

A Guide To, Umbrella Etiquette, umbrellas, how to use

When not using the umbrella, shake it dry but make sure no one is near you first. They won’t be amused and quite rightly so. Also make sure you carry it horizontally when not in use. This will stop you stabbing people or hitting them in the side.

On public transport, the best thing to do with your umbrella is to hold it in your hands or put it between your feet. This will stop you forgetting it and also make sure you don’t get anyone else, or a seat, wet.

Use it when it is raining, but not for a light drizzle unless you are walking in a quiet area. It is not worth poking someones eye out in a busy area if it is merely drizzling. Watch out for big umbrellas too. If they cover more than one person, fine but they are unnecessary for only one person and not recommended in busy areas.

Always be extra cautious when walking around corners. Especially blind ones.

When you are using an umbrella always stop walking and move to the side if you need to use your phone. You need to pay attention when using an umbrella, and a phone for that matter. You don’t want a Darwin award for dying whilst texting.

To pass someone else with an umbrella the best way is to lift your umbrella above or below the other persons umbrella. This is also good on a busy street when space is an issue. The taller person should lift but do so if they don’t. Another option is to tilt. If you tilt away from each other you will remain dry and the umbrellas will not knock into each other. Win win. Don’t over tilt, you might hit someone on the other side of you in the face. As I said: it is all about spacial awareness.

 What would you add to our guide to umbrella etiquette? Please comment below. 

 

 

Debrett’s Reveal The Questions They’re Most Frequently Asked

debrett's guide to good mannersDebrett’s have revealed the questions they are most frequently asked by the public.  The list, which covers everything from social kissing to mobile phone use, provides a revealing insight into the social anxiety people experience in behaviour for everyday situations. We may no longer live in the structured world of ‘Downtown Abbey’, but it’s clear that many of us still yearn for guidance on good manners.

 

Debrett’s was founded in London in 1769, and now has an international presence.  In the last 12 months they received more than 10,000 enquiries from across the globe.  The enquiries on social behaviour inform part of the recently released Debrett’s Handbook, a 480-page compendium on good manners.

 

Below Debrett’s reveal the questions they have been most frequently asked in the last 12 months, and provide their responses.

 

1 – MOBILE PHONE USE

Debrett’s receive more enquiries about mobile use than any other device. According to Debrett’s, it is always rude to pay more attention to a phone than a person in the flesh, and they should always be put away when transacting other business – for example, when you’re paying for something in a shop.  They should be switched off in theatres, cinemas (including during the trailers!), art galleries, or any space where silence is desired.

 

2 – SMOKING E-CIGARETTES AT WORK

As electronic cigarettes become more popular, so to do the number of enquiries that Debrett’s receive on the device.  The most pressing question is whether they are acceptable in the workplace. According to Debrett’s they should never be used in a work environment. Vaping shows that you’re not focused on your work and may also be a distraction to your colleagues.

 

3 – SOCIAL GREETING: KISSING

Many people are clearly unclear on the subject of social kissing.  According to Debrett’s, kissing is not appropriate in many professional situations. On the whole it should only be used among friends, but not on first meeting. An air kiss, without contact, may seem rude or impersonal, so very slight contact is best but no sound effects are needed.

 

4 – EATING AND APPLYING MAKE-UP ON PUBLIC TRANSPORT

Following the recent controversy surrounding public-shaming websites, Debrett’s has been inundated with enquiries as to whether it’s acceptable to eat or apply make-up on public transport.  According to Debrett’s you should avoid both.  It’s inconsiderate to eat smelly food in a confined environment, and applying make-up on public transport can jeopardise that all-important first impression and make you appear disorganised.

 

5 – RECLINING YOUR SEAT ON AEROPLANES

This is a common bugbear.  According to Debrett’s, it’s selfish to recline your seat back during short daytime flights. When travelling by plane always stay within your own designated space and don’t hog the armrest. Also avoid kicking the back of the seat in front of you or using it as an aid to standing-up.

 

6 – GIVING UP YOUR SEAT ON PUBLIC TRANSPORT

In a recent university experiment only 20% of London tube passengers offered to give up their seat to a visibly pregnant woman.  According to Debrett’s, passengers should always offer to give up their seat to any individual that is pregnant, elderly, or clearly in need. It is important to remember, however, that it is just as rude to aggressively decline the offer of a seat as it is to not offer a seat.

 

7 – BLIND COPYING (bcc)

Debrett’s receive a high level of enquiries on best business practice.  The most commonly asked question is whether it is ever right to blind copy (bcc) someone into an email. According to Debrett’s, blind copying should be used discerningly as it is deceptive to the primary recipient. Instead, the email should be forwarded on to the third party, with a short note explaining any confidentiality, after its distribution.

If blind copying is essential – i.e. for a confidential document where all recipients must remain anonymous – then the sender should address the email to themselves, and everyone else as ‘bcc’ recipients.

 

8  – EATING BEFORE EVERYONE IS SERVED

The final question is one that we’ve all asked ourselves: is it rude to start eating at the table before everyone else has been served?  According to Debrett’s the simple answer is yes, unless the host or hostess gives their permission for diners to start

 

Out now, Debrett’s Handbook is the most comprehensive book Debrett’s has ever published aside from its famed registers, People of Today and Peerage & Baronetage, and combines Debrett’s Correct Form with a guide to modern manners for the first time. Priced at £35, and available from the Debrett’s online shop Debrett’s Handbook will make for a great Christmas present – and it’s sure to settle a number of age-old family debates on manners and appropriate behaviour! The Debrett’s Handbook is out now.  For more information visit www.debretts.com

 

 

Cheers, Chin Chin, Lechaim, Ganbei, Kai Wei, Sante: A Guide to Making a Toast

Cheers, Chin Chin, Lechaim, Ganbei, Kai Wei, Sante

Chivas Regal present the Gentleman’s Guide to Making a Toast

Toasting is an age old ritual which is practiced round the world to celebrate new friends and old friends, guests of honour, business colleagues as well as special moments. Depending on who you are with and where you are, how you raise your glass in tribute can vary considerably.

With this in mind the world’s most iconic luxury Scotch whisky, Chivas Regal, has created the ultimate Gentleman’s Guide to Making a Toast.

With endless overlapping cross cultures it has never been more important for the true gent to be well versed in how to conduct themselves with chivalry in foreign lands – you never know who you might end up insulting!

The Gentleman’s Guide to Making a Toast is part of the Chivas Regal ‘Real Friends, Make Time’ campaign which highlights the importance of making time to spend with your friends.

Chivas lovers around the world can now raise a glass in confidence no matter what the situation – we hope you enjoy the guide.

The Chivas Regal Gentleman’s Guide to Making a Toast

Toasting is a ritual respected around the world. Harking back to days of old it is how
we celebrate new friends and old friends, guests of honour, the bride and groom,
business colleagues as well as special moments.

You can muddle through on a raised glass and a cry of ‘cheers’, ‘chin chin’ or ‘good
health’ on many a shore but the true well-travelled modern gent will be prepared to
say ‘lechaim’, ‘salud’ and ‘sante’ where appropriate.

With this in mind, Chivas Regal brings you the Gentleman’s Guide to Making a
Toast. With a history spanning over 200 years, Chivas Regal has been toasted with in
more than 150 countries. Along the way we’ve picked up some useful information
that will help get you into the spirit and get you toasting like a local no matter where
in the world you might find yourself.

China

Coming together over a drink has always been at the heart of Chinese culture, but the
blast of economic growth is accelerating this to new levels. At clubs and bars in the
big cities you’ll see a bottle of whisky or vodka in the middle of the table for guests to
share. At a big meal you might find three glasses on your table – a glass for your drink
of choice, a wine glass, and a shot glass. A few notes of caution when in China: not
finishing your glass may be seen as disrespectful and the local spirit ‘er gua toe’ can
bring down a dragon – we would suggest sticking with Chivas.

The Chinese toasting ritual may be casual but whether in a social or business setting,
it is deeply associated with friendship, trust and respect and a simple ‘cheers’ is
seriously frowned upon. The host will make the first toast – probably ‘ganbei’
[‘bottoms up!’] or ‘kai wei’ [‘starting the appetite!’]. Touching the other person’s glass
below the rim is a sign of respect. If you are drinking shots, turn your glass over to
show it’s empty.

Russia

Many travelers believe the Russian toast is ‘Na Zdorov’ye’ but they would be wrong
unless they are having dinner. In fact Russians as a rule enjoy making up long and
complex toasts such as ‘Za druzhbu myezhdu narodami!’ (To friendship between
nations!). However, if you aren’t well versed in Russian and want to be on the safe
side, go with a simple ‘Za Vas!’ (To you!).

In Russia toasts are made with spirits and empty glasses are always refilled. Expect
frequent toasting throughout the meal. If the toaster stands, everybody must stand.
Be sure to make eye contact with each person you clink glasses with, finish in one
swallow and place your glass down on the table. The host or the senior guest usually
kicks off the proceedings and if someone toasts you, you must toast them back; it is
the height of rudeness not to do so.

France, Germany, Italy

Across France, Germany and Italy there are many quirky local twists – and words –
but the acceptable way to toast is to make eye contact as you touch everyone’s glass at
the table. Not looking into the eyes is not only ‘bad luck’ but – to a greater or lesser
degree – in France and Germany it threatens disaster for amorous pursuits! In Italy,
this is taken to extremes – you’ll genuinely have to meet everyone’s eyes.

While you are holding that ever important eye contact prepare to toast ‘a votre sante’,
‘sante’ or ‘tchin’ in France, ‘ZumWohl!’ or ‘Prost!’ (‘good health’) in Germany and
‘Salute’ (health) in Italy – although ‘Cin Cin!’ (onomatopoeia of the sound of clinking
of glasses) will also work.

Spain, South America and Mexico

Young Spanish speaking South Americans have a curious toast that’s most often
heard if you’re enjoying a night out in a large group. You’ll hear “arriba, abajo, al
centro, al dentro!!” and see some matching movements with the glass: ‘up (raising
glass), down (lowering glass), in the center (putting glasses together), inside
(drinking!). There’s also the more generally used ‘salud’ – appropriate if you’re a
guest, to make a toast of thanks to your host. The modern gentleman is always polite,
if your host has made you feel like you’re one of the family, there is no greater
compliment possible. ‘Salud’ is also often used as part of a more personalised toast
such as; ‘un salud por la familia’ (cheers to family) or ‘un salud por la amistad’
(cheers to friendship).

Scandinavia

The Scandinavians have a rather bloodthirsty cheer – ‘Skol!’. According to folklore it
is derived from a legend that Vikings drank from the skulls of their enemies. So when
in Scandinavia drink, then nod and be thankful they’re no longer Vikings.
What do to if you forget the local toast

The modern gentleman is well versed in international etiquette, so that no matter
where they are in the world they can present themselves with the same confidence as
they would at home. But if your toasting know-how fails you at the crucial moment,
here are some tips from Max Warner, Chivas Regal Global Ambassador and toasting
expert:

“On my journeys with Chivas, I’ve observed many different ways of raising a glass
and though it is important where possible to respect local traditions there are a few
good rules of thumb which I’ve picked up that can get you by if you’re not versed on
how the locals do it.

-Try and judge the situation and formality of the occasion as toasts not only differ
around the world but from venue and situation as well
-Where appropriate stand to make a toast
-Always raise your glass, face the host first and make eye contact with your
audience
-Where possible clink the glass of each guest before taking a sip. For those not
drinking, raise a glass to the group as a sign of respect.
-Keep your toast short and non-specific but acknowledge the host and bring in a
personal touch by highlighting your relation to the person or group.”

A little bit of history

Why is toasting recognised wherever alcohol is drunk? It depends. In Chinese
traditions, toasting began with libations to the gods. In Europe, on the other hand, it
was a good way to stop your host poisoning you. Ancient Greeks and Romans – then
the British in the Middle Ages – shared their drink from a flask or a cup as a matter
of trust. If the host raised his cup and drank first, his guests knew they were safe.
Why is it called a toast? Because wine used to be so acidic a piece of burnt bread was
added – the charcoal neutralised the acid. The final sip went to the host, who ate the
bread. In medieval courts, the ‘loving cup’ would be passed around, in memory of the
first recorded formal toast in Western history – when Rowena, daughter of the Saxon
leader Hengist, cried ‘waes hael’ (be of health) to King Vortigen and they shared a
cup – leading to them sharing a kingdom as man and wife.

January's Magazines: Lady Gaga and Gwen Stefani Cover Stars.

Lady Gaga takes the cover of Vanity Fair. She tells Vanity Fair: ‘I can’t commit to being an adult- I’m not ready.’

One of the main reasons I subscribe to Vanity Fair is the intelligent articles. I get my monthly dose of politics and economics. This month is no exception, there are brilliant articles to help you understand the economical crisis and a brilliant article on George F. Kennedy.

I really enjoyed Henry Aldord’s article on manners. It’s a sample from his book, Would it kill you to stop doing that?

  • Vanity Fair take Celine Dion out to lunch and she tells them she has over 3000 pair of shoes.
  • There is a brilliant article on Rick Perry, can he comeback?
  • Salman Rushdie on Lewis Carroll’s struggle to write his second book. ‘Follow that syndrome’ and how it helped him. Great piece.
  • The Japanese workers cleaning up Fukushima Daiichi nuclear power plant.
  • Rebecca Eaton, who has put her stamp on Downton Abbey and Upstairs Downstairs amongst others.
  • Michael Ovitz and his (alleged) failed takeover of IMG from the late Teddy Forstmann.
  • The wonderful Christopher Hitchens debates whether the phrase ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ has merit.
  • The Queen and Prince Phillip in love. 16 pages on the blossoming of their love.
  • And P.D. James answers the Proust Questionnaire.

Marie Claire has Kelly Rowland on the cover. She talks Beyonce, men, music and admits she has cellulite.

There is a lot of clothes and shoes that will help you plan your wardrobe for next year, and lots of sparkly stuff for Christmas.

There is also a 2011 in review. Most magazines do this in December, watch out for Frosts.

  • Why famous men cheat, and does it sound like your man? Good article, and Lizzie Cundy tells Marie Claire how it felt when her husband cheated on her. Forgive and forget?
  • Four style savvy women share the party prepping secrets.
  • Janine di Giovanni goes in search of the truth about Aisha Gaddafi.
  • Should you tell your boss if your pregnant?
  • Matt Smith interview.
  • Who finds you the perfect date?
  • Jean Shrimpton’s Life story.
  • Amy Manson on the things she loves.
  • Future proof your looks.
  • Dakota Fanning’s beauty rules.
  • There is a very informative article on hormone problems, their symptoms and treatments.

Florence Welch take the cover of British Vogue and is interviewed inside. She tells Vogue: ‘I don’t think I’ll ever be polished. I’m integrally slightly scruffy. You know, you meet those women who are so cool? I’m striving for that so much!”.

  • In Vogue’s scrapbook there is a guide to flowers and their seasons and lots of floral dresses.
  • Sarah Lund from The Killing is interviews and asked about THAT jumper.
  • Women under siege, stories from women in Libya.
  • The new generation of female drummers.
  • Designing Duos.
  • Michael Kors
  • The Frieze Art; pictures and interviews from the art world’s fashion week.
  • Nomi Rapace interview.
  • Steven Spielberg and the cast for Warhorse.
  • Vogue’s great escapes. A brief history of Vogue shoots in foreign countries.
  • Three beauty hotshots show you how to par-down your make up bag.
  • Fast track your workout.

 

Glamour has X Factor’s Tulisa on the cover. She says ‘I don’t think I am anything like Cheryl, except we can both put a bit of volume in our hair’. She also says that she likes to ‘stick up for other women’. Which makes Frost like her. A lot.

  • Dermont O’Leary interview.
  • Don’t fear your fashion ghosts.
  • Get your dream job in 2012.
  • How to get blogged about.
  • The truth about food intolerance.
  • 3 Health problems you can fix yourself.
  • Can dating pro Matthew Hussey find you a man?
  • Tamara and Petra Ecclestone.
  • There is a good article on the rise of those awful pay day loan companies, beware of them at all costs!
  • Hollywood female stereotypes, a funny article by Mindy Kaling, writer of the US Office.
  • The truth about Hollywood stars selling their bodies when times get tough.
  • Give your closet a January detox with Danni Minogue.
  • Nicki Minaj interview and photo shoot.
  • How to get your s**t together. Sort out your wardrobe, make up bag, and everything else in your life.
  • Josh Duhamel interview.
  • The stars of 2012.
  • Your everything guide to skin.
  • Nicole Scherzinger on health and beauty.
  • The Devil in your diet: The low-down on sugar. Did you know that sugar has 4kcal per gram? There is also no difference between brown and white sugar.
  • 12 dinners for £50.

Tatler has Florence Brudenell-Bruce is on the cover. The girl that got away, Prince Harry’s ex tells Tatler that ‘one day everything will drop and I won’t be able to earn a living in my bikini’.

 

  • Free travel guide.
  • Rigby and Peller give Tatler their Mood Board.
  • What the recent overhaul of the royal succession means for the aristocracy.
  • Santa Sebag Montefiore launches a new skiing clothes line.
  • The Posh Commune.
  • Ella Hughes goes to an orgy.

  • Charles Gilkes and Duncan Stirling launch yet another party venue.
  • Quentin Letts sketchbook: Yvette Cooper.
  • Russian Billionaires at the High Court. Abramovich and Berezovsky go head to head.
  • Emma Freud reviews toasters.
  • Dafydd Jones on 30 years of chronicling the art crowd.
  • Writers on manners.
  • Joanne Lumley on her beauty routine.
  • Jo Malone on what she loves.

Gwen Stefani is on the cover of Instyle and is interviewed. Did you know she is friends with Angelina Jolie?

  • Where style starts: statement earrings.
  • Josephine de la Baume on her style.
  • Actors at the Toronto Film Festival.
  • Fashion insiders reveal what they cannot live without.
  • Tom Ford and Kate Bosworth. Tom has just launched a new make up range and Kate models
  • Instyle Shopping rules; jeans, vintage, lingerie, jewellery.
  • Instyle meets Jenna Lyons from J Crew.
  • Beyonce’s body rules.
  • Christmas Prep.
  • Megan Fox Up Close. Her beauty secrets.
  • Gizzi Erskine is In Style’s new columnist.