MumsThread On The Kindness of Strangers

baby, shared parental leave, feminism, equality, childcare, leave, maternal, work, working mothers, lean inMy last few pieces have been quite negative so I thought I would share something positive today: just how kind people can be when you have a child. That knowing look that other parents give you, that it-is-going-to-be-okay smile that complete stranger do to make you feel better. I remember trying to get into my flat once and struggling to get the pram through the heavy door, a man in a van stopped and asked if I needed help, followed by two other people. That was three people in a row. I was really touched and it made my day. I didn’t want to put any of them out- the pram just needed an extra push at that point- but when you are a parent, especially one with a baby, any kindness really does make your day.

I have had people come up to me in restaurants and tell them how beautiful my son is (I know, proud mum alert). Babies and toddlers are social lubricant. I have talked to more people since I had my son than I had in years. It does feel like when you have a child you enter some kind of club. Not in a bad way, just in a way that other parents will usually strike up a conversation or try to help if they can. Having a child opens up an entire new world. I took my son to Baby Ballet recently, and it was so sweet seeing him with all of the other children, but it was also great being surrounded by other parents. Having a child can be an isolating experience, any kindness you can get, any human contact at all can make or break a day. I am grateful to every single person who took their time. Even if it was just a smile.

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MumsThread: On a Mother’s Love

a mother's love, parenting, It terrifies me how much I love my son. It is overwhelming. A feeling so powerful that sometimes it makes me nauseas. It makes me both weak and strong. Fearless and scared. It is something I never expected because it is so pure. There is nothing I don’t love about my son. He is perfect in every way. From his soft hair to the tip of his toes. I love him so much I would give him a kidney. I would take a bullet for my son. Hell, I would even help him bury a body. There are no limits. And god help anyone who ever tries to hurt him.

This isn’t to say I have never felt love before, or that I don’t love my husband just as much, it’s just that your love for your child feels different. I think it is because they are so dependent on you. Or maybe it’s their innocence. When I was pregnant I loved this little bean growing inside me of course, but I hadn’t met him yet. I was so thrilled to be pregnant that I kept expecting someone to pinch me and say that it wasn’t real. Then the birth was so traumatic we weren’t sure he was going to make it.

I still remember the first time I saw my son. I couldn’t believe it. The midwife brought him to me and laid him on my chest. I cried. Tears of pure happiness and relief. It was the best moment of my life. I know it sounds strange that you can be pregnant for over 41 weeks (seriously, get out!) and not believe that you are lucky enough to have your own son. When he was born my husband and I felt the same; we just couldn’t believe he was real. He is 18-months old now and we still count our blessings everyday. He is the best thing that happened to us. He is everything. He is our son.

Melobaby Melotote Changing Bag Review

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The Melobaby Melotote really caught my eye when I saw it. It has a great, unique design. But that was not all. It seemed to have lots of compartments and a separate bag for the milk bottle. So did it live up to expectations? I have reviewed a lot of parenting bags and I can say that the Melotote is my favourite. It is almost impossible to not be organised with this bag. It has the perviously mentioned separate bag for the milk bottle which is insulated. The two compartments at either side are also insulated for drinks and snacks. The nappy mat is great, coming in a plastic bag which can also take some nappies. It has a beautiful soft fleece on one side and a washable fabric on the other. I love it. The bag is also designed that so when it is on the floor all of the compartments stay upright and in place. Brilliant.

The bag also has some zipped compartments on the outside, very handy. It comes with a strap, two handles, and two small straps which allow it to fit onto any pram. My only gripe is that the clip on the strap had to be pushed back when it came out.

This is a great bag which takes a lot of the stress out of parenting. You cannot underestimate the importance of a good changing bag. You don’t want to get flustered looking for things. I give this bag full marks. Smart functional design which also looks great. What more could you want?

 

Super stylish and extremely practical, the award winning MELOTOTE is the changing bag parents won’t want to live without.  Its sophisticated, good-looking design means it will be used long after baby is out of nappies!

Perfect for days out, this top quality changing bag has been specially designed to be lightweight, and offers easy access with all the right pockets in all the right places.  It features two interior insulated pockets for bottles, drinks and snacks, a large internal full length padded compartment for everyday essentials, two external pockets and two external zipped pouches to keep all mum and dad’s essentials safe.  Belongings can be spotted and accessed quickly and the bag’s structured design keeps it upright when placed on the ground.

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The MELOTOTE comes with a washable, super-soft fleece mat which is wipe-able on one side, and stored in its own handy carry pack which can also hold nappies.  An insulated bottle bag in matching,easy-clean fabric is also included.  Parents can use the bag’s adjustable shoulder strap or the easy carry tote handles, plus the handy stroller straps enable the bag to hang neatly from any pushchair.

New to the collection of fabric designs is the smart Chevron Grey, or parents can choose from Black, Love Navy or Love Black & White.  Priced at £75, the MELOTOTE is an exceptional changing bag at a great value price.

Here’s a mum’s view on the MELOTOTE.  Debbie has considerable experience in the nursery industry and has been trying out the MELOTOTE recently for the first time with her two children:

“As I have been in the nursery industry for 16 years and have two small children I have been lucky enough to try many different changing bags in my time and I can honestly say the MELOTOTE is the best one I have had so far!  Not only does it look really sophisticated and sleek but it is so neat as it stores everything in such an organised manner.  It allows even the most disorganised mum to be neat and tidy! The wide opening allows you to find everything really quickly and when you throw it on the floor it stays upright and keeps everything inside.  You can really feel the quality of the finish and all the additional features, such as the super-soft fleece mat in its own wipeable pouch and the matching bottle bag, make the bag great value for money.”

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