Didn’t See That Coming By Rachel Hollis Book Review

Rachel Hollis, Didn't see that coming, book, book review. Didn’t See That Coming could be the slogan for 2020 and this book is the essential read to help us all through it. Written with searing honesty, Rachel Hollis has wisdom in spades and she is here to share it. Rachel has suffered trauma and grief and now she has a blueprint to get through to the other end. Rachel Hollis is a truly inspirational person and if we all had her attitude and resilience the world would be a better place and we would all be much happier. Get your hands on a copy of Didn’t See That Coming and improve your life forever. 

In a departure from Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing, Rachel Hollis offers her devoted followers and new readers an aspirational guide to seizing the difficult moments for the learning experiences that they are, and finding value in them.

When the pandemic hit, Rachel found herself in a place that is also familiar now—facing immense grief, fear, anxiety, and worry about the world around us. As a mother of four, motivational speaker, and CEO of a company she built from the ground up, she realised that in order to get through this challenging time, she needed to reframe how she was approaching everything. Having survived crisis and grief many times herself, she believed she might be able to share what she knew and what she’d done so that she could help others walk through this hard time too.

DIDN’T SEE THAT COMING shares how to embrace the difficult moments in life for the learning experiences they are, and shows that a life well-lived is one of purpose – focused on the essentials.

 

5 Ways To Be Good To Yourself

awesome cat picturesLife can be tough sometimes and kindness goes a long way. Sometimes no one is tougher on me than myself, which got me thinking: it is time we all started being kinder to ourselves. We live in a world where doing something for yourself is often thought of as selfish, but it is not. Since becoming a parent I never put myself first, let’s be honest, I didn’t do it even before my son was born, but with the wisdom that comes with age I have realised that you have to take care of yourself before you can care for others. A lovely health visitor told me after I had my son that I should treat myself as a toddler and my son as the baby. ‘If you don’t look after yourself,’ she said, ‘you cannot look after your baby.’ How right she was. Self care is important. With that in mind, here are my five tips for being good to yourself.

Do Something You Love.

Watch a TV show, go for a walk, get your hair done, have a bath, get a massage. It doesn’t matter what it is. Take the thing that makes you happier than anything else and do it for as long as you can. Self care is self love. I am a workaholic and sometimes I don’t take the time to just ‘be’. I am not saying you have to practice mindfulness or meditate, just do something fun. Treating yourself is important. I treat my husband and son, but sometime  forget to give myself the same treatment. The more you love yourself, the healthier and happier you will be.

Get moving.

Exercise is a necessary evil. It may not be fun at the time, but it will get the endorphins going, as well as making you healthier in the longer term. The key is finding an exercise that you don’t hate. Even going for a walk for 30 minutes 3 times a week will make a difference to your health and happiness. Read more about the benefits of walking here.

Invest in Yourself.

No, I don’t mean buying shoes. I mean saving, actual investing and education. Saving for a pension or a rainy day may not be as fun as shopping, but it is the ultimate in self love. As is paying for further education. Invest in yourself and your future and you will stand out from the competition. Even if you are in a job you love there is probably a qualification that you can do to further your career and add to your salary. Who knows, your employers might even pay for it.

The government also have a new lifetime ISA. The good thing about the lifetime ISA is that the government top it up, so you will actually get free money. Read more about ISAs here.

Take Some Time Out.

Take a long weekend or take an afternoon off to read and drink good coffee. If you are a self employed freelancer like me then you are probably not very good at giving yourself breaks. Be a good boss and treat yourself well. There are plenty of Bank Holidays so even if you do not have much holiday time you can take a long break somewhere. You don’t have to go anywhere, you can just potter around the house or read a book. Staycations are also great. York, Cornwall, Edinburgh and London are all great destinations to spend some time.

Be Naughty.

Eat an entire cake, have two glasses of wine with lunch, have some afternoon sex, spend a lot of money on something you always wanted. If you love coffee, invest in a good coffee machine from gourmesso.co.uk. Sometime being a bit naughty is a good thing.

 

What tips would you add?

Stop Talking, Start Doing

stoptalkingstartdoingactionbookSupposing you could take the next 2 years off from your normal life? You didn’t have to worry about where you live, earning a living, paying the bills, what family, friends and colleagues would think of what you do in those next 24 months.

What are you going to do in this time?

Do you want to write a book, start a band, study, renovate your house, leave your partner, your job, the town you live in and travel far and wide?

Get a pen and paper and write it down. Now. Write down the things you’d do and the people and places it would involve. Find an image from a magazine (or download one from online and print off), something that depicts what it is you really want to do.

If you’ve got something you want to do, now is a good time to start. Now more than ever we live in a world of opportunity.

Life is shorter than we expect and it races by while we’re working out what’s really important and what actually isn’t. So let’s walk the walk.

Here are 4 good reasons why you should stop talking, start doing:

 

  1. You can

Our connected world makes it possible for people to actualize dreams, ideas and initiative in ways our forebears could not even dream of. Whatever you want to know, it’s all at your fingertips.

Whether you want to start a business, a work of art or a social project, the soaring development of the social web have demolished barriers between you and the expertise you need. It empowers you to ask friends of friends (and friends of friends of friends) if they can offer advice, make introductions, share experiences.

Who do you know who’s already doing or has done what you want to do? Get in touch with them. Ask to meet them, talk on the phone or email them and find out how they did it. What are their top tips?

 

  1. Unconventional is Conventional

Sixty years ago a gentleman wouldn’t go to work without a hat on; ten years ago they stopped wearing ties. Now you don’t have go into work to go to work… so who knows what people are wearing. But the point is: who cares?!

Society cares less about conformity than it used to. The concept of a job for life is long gone. Self-employment is soaring.

If you want to give up your job and travel round the world, learn to juggle, join a commune – your neighbours might cough and shake their heads but you can cope with that…Or they might just tell you how they always wanted to do the same thing.

 

  1. The Feeling of Emptiness

For an awful lot of people, the fruits of their labour was the ability to maximize their debt and buy the biggest house they could afford in the area they wanted to live. And then the market crashed. Which was when you began to think to yourself: Is that all there is? Where’s my job satisfaction if it isn’t in the mortgage? What would I rather be doing with my free time? With my money? How am I going to change things?

In response to the feeling of emptiness and a search for meaning we are witnessing the emergence of business entities created for reasons other than solely monetary profit.

It’s not that seeking profit is necessarily bad. Far from it. But this trend shows a growing appreciation of how people can be powerfully motivated and compensated by the intrinsic meaning of what they DO and not just by a financial bonus scheme.

Waiting for an urban plot of land to work on before you start waiting to leave the city and grow your own vegetables in your own garden? Don’t confine your dream to waiting. Get your hands dirty. Start.

 

  1. That Ticking Sound

One thing technology hasn’t changed. You won’t live forever.

You might live a bit longer but that’s all the more reason to start pursuing the life you want, not just the one you’ve ended up with.

You don’t want to be an anonymous face in the crowd of your own life story. That’s a life of regret. You gotta face your fears and climb inside the ropes. Let’s get moving.

 

This article is based on Stop Talking, Start Doing Action Book: Practical tools and exercises to give you a kick in the pants by Shaa Wasmund (published by Capstone)

 

 

New Self Help Book on Breast Cancer Released

From Both Ends Of The Stethoscope by Dr. Kathleen Thompson book review, health, breast cancer,From Both Ends of the Stethoscope: Getting through breast cancer – by a doctor who knows   by Dr Kathleen Thompson

ISBN: paperback: 978-0-9935083-0-1  ebook: 978-0-9935083-1-8

Published by Faito Books

Cancer cells appear in everyone’s body much of the time, and more than one in three of us will experience some form of cancer during our lives. 

One of the commonest of these is breast cancer.

So what is breast cancer? What is cancer come to that?

What is it like to have breast cancer?

Cancer cells are usually destroyed by our immune system – but sometimes they breach these defences, and we get cancer – why?

What can we do to prevent this?

 Actually there are lots of simple things we can do to avoid cancer in the first place, and to give ourselves the best chance of recovering completely.

This is a non-fiction autobiographical, self-help book written by a doctor who has had breast cancer. Sharing her own experiences, the author takes the reader through the raw emotions associated with having cancer and needing to face one’s own mortality.

Always referring to her own cancer journey, with all its highs and dips, she helps the reader understand what they will experience during the treatment.

She explains the various medical consultations, tests and procedures, and the different treatment options, and how to make the best treatment choices.

She uses her personal experiences of things going wrong to illustrate how to deal with such circumstances, including coping with problems as an in-patient, and challenging incorrect medical decisions.

She deals with the post-treatment period, and what to do if the cancer comes back.

Alternative therapies are discussed, and, importantly, advice is given on how to distinguish credible research, and genuine therapies, from quackery.

Finally that all important question is answered – what can we do to protect ourselves against cancer?

Biography: Dr Kathleen Thompson

Kathleen is a doctor, specialising in pharmaceutical drug research.

A few years ago her life changed completely, when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. This became the inspiration for her first book.

She writes medical contributions for Frost e-Magazine and has authored various scientific research publications through her career.

She has two long-suffering children, who patiently tolerate their mother’s crazy projects, and rescue her from frequent IT catastrophes.

She has a passion for ballroom dancing and enjoys adventures. She has climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, walked the Camino de Santiago (500 miles) and cycled the mountains of Kerala, and also through Rajasthan.  During two of these activities she raised funds for Women v Cancer –which provides funding for three cancer charities, including Breast Cancer Care.

 

 

How To Stand Out By Dr Rob Yeung Book Review

howtostandoutbookreviewMany self help books are dense and uninspiring. How To Stand Out has a lot going for it and is far from dense and uninspiring, it is easy to read and absorb, with pull quotes and actual quotes helping you along. Psychologist Dr Rob Yeung knows what he is talking about and covers everything from the science of standing out and tips to be more memorable. The book is full of great advice and will leave you with the ability to stand out and become someone who is not only noticed, but remembered. Good book.

How to Stand Out is written by psychologist Dr Rob Yeung and draws on extensive research and scientific studies to explore the body language and speaking techniques that help people stand out and get noticed. Whether readers want to impress a date, socialise more easily or get noticed at work, this book will help them develop skills for personal and professional success.

How to Stand Out: Proven Tactics for Getting Noticed is available here.

 

About the author

Dr Rob Yeung is an organisational psychologist at consultancy Talentspace, where he runs leadership development programmes for executives, as well as training workshops on topics such as presentation skills, confidence, teamwork and personal productivity. He has a Ph.D. in psychology from King’s College London, is a chartered psychologist and an Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society. He is the author of over 20 books and a familiar face to television, having appeared as an expert psychologist of programmes ranging from ITN, CNN, BBC News and Big Brother. He is a regular guest on BBC Radio 2 and has been quoted in publications ranging from the Financial TimesThe Sunday Times, GQ, Men’s Health and Red.

Published by Capstone.

 

 New book by leading psychologist uncovers the science of standing out

 

What is it that makes some people stand out? That star quality that gets them promoted again and again, or asked out on date after date? What helps them get noticed at work, at a party, in life?

 

Drawing on extensive business school, university and employer research, psychologist and television expert Dr Rob Yeung explores the body language, winning words and confidence-building techniques that have been proven to help people become more successful.

 

The book provides practical advice illustrated by scientific studies and interviews with executives, entrepreneurs, TV producers and people from all walks of life who share their stories, their worries and tips for making the most of themselves.

 

How to Stand Out tackles:

 

  • The ‘confidence con’ – how people are often successful despite being afflicted by anxiety and doubt, with examples from sales professionals to singer-songwriter Adele.
  • Superstar speakers – the verbal tricks used by CEOs to prime ministers and how one badly worded email cemented the downfall of one of the most successful companies of the 21st century.
  • Persuasion through body language – the latest research on how non-verbal communication influences people’s decision-making, even who they think should run the country.
  • Creating an ‘i-deal’ job – why enjoying work is a must have for performance in work and life and a proven programme for boosting not only your enjoyment but performance.

 

Both rigorously researched (with full notes referring to original academic research) and entertaining, this book will help anyone who wants to make more impact personally or professionally by teaching them to be more engaging, entertaining and persuasive.

 

Follow Rob: @RobYeung

 

 

 

The Energy Bus Book Review

theenergybusbookreviewThe Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel your Life, Work and Team with Positive Energy By Jon Gordon is a self help book with a difference. Written as a fictional story about a negative businessman who’s life changes when his car breaks down and he is forced to take the bus. The driver, Joy, has 10 rules to a positive mindset. I found the book helpful with fascinating facts about the heart and Abraham Lincoln. Facts, rules and fiction are all woven together into a book that inspires positive energy and gives you the tools to bring that positive energy to your life and work place. 

Easy to understand and implement. Recommended for work and home. 

The book, which is written in the style of a fable, takes place in a business setting,  and includes an Action Plan and 10 simple rules, using the analogy of a bus ride, to build a positive, high performing team. The Energy Bus has proved hugely popular in the US amongst sports teams and their coaches and Gordon, a former  College lacrosse player, regularly gets asked to address sports teams teaching them how  to maintain a positive mindset throughout gruelling training sessions.

Discover how to stay positive and avoid ‘energy vampires’

According to a global Gallup poll, negativity in the workplace is rife, with only 1 in 8 employees being psychologically committed to their jobs and likely to be making positive contributions to their organisations.

Energy coach Jon Gordon wants to change that.  In his bestselling self-help book, The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to fuel your life, work and team with positive energy, the author offers lessons on staying positive and avoiding ‘energy vampires’ who will ‘suck the life out of you and your goals and vision’ if you let them. Gordon offers 10 simple rules to achieving positive results which, when applied, have an impact on health, family, team and personal success.

The author draws on his experience of working with thousands of leaders and teams  to provide  readers with insights and practical strategies to help them achieve a positive team and culture. Written in the style of a fable, the book tells the story of a man, struggling in his job and marriage, whose car gets a flat tyre, forcing him to take a bus to work.  The bus driver’s positive attitude helps him to turn his life around.

“While this fable takes place in a business setting, this book was written for everyone.  We are all part of a team, and every member of our team – whether it’s our work team, sports team, family team, or school team, can benefit from the 10 simple, powerful rules shared in this book.  After all, positive people and positive teams produce positive results, and the essential ingredient is positive energy.” Jon Gordon

 

 About the author:

Jon Gordon’s best selling books and talks have inspired readers and audiences around the world. His principles have been put to the test by numerous sports coaches and teams, organisations, schools, hospitals and charities. He is the author of The Wall Street Journal best seller The Energy BusThe No Complaining RuleTraining CampThe Shark and The Goldfish and Soup: A Recipe to Nourish your Team and Culture. Connect with him at www.JonGordon.com

 

Published by Wiley.

The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy is available here.

ISBN: 9781119089148

 

 

Learning To Listen To Your Body

Recently I came down with a bout of stress related illness and I beat myself up over having time off. I felt like I was letting everyone down. Now we all get sick and we can’t help it. When it happens we all need to listen to our bodies and just go with it. It’s harder said than done learning to listen to your body and not push yourself so hard. I’m the worst for this as I will try to everything. Work full time, commute an hour to and from work, do photography at the weekends and evenings then edit those pictures and schedule articles on my days off. When I tell people what my week is like the response is always “How the heck do you do it all” In truth I have no idea. So it would make sense that my body sent me a persuasive little message. Sarah just stop….Slow down your not ever going to be a super hero. Stepping outside ones self and looking in as though you were a good friend is something we all need to do now and then.

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Reevaluating your life is a good thing. If you need some time off to recharge your energy then so be it.

My top 10 Tips For Listening To Your Body

1. Take a deep breath and take care of No1. Sometimes this is as important as looking after others.
2. Don’t stress out over the fact you can’t manage to do everything. These are what I have had to preach to myself over the last week!
3. Make a nice cup of tea, take a bath, get into clean pjs and get back in bed.
4. Turn off your phone when you get in from work or at 6pm
5. Don’t let others make you feel bad that you need to take care for yourself.
6. Learn to say NO.
8. Know your limits and don’t push yourself too hard.
9. Relax as stress builds up and can cause serious health problems.
10. Finally grab a good book and let your body really relax with out social media and drift off to sleep!

I believe it’s important for us to help others in life. If your feeling stressed out or poorly then learning to listen to your body can help with a lifetime of difficulties.

Two-Thirds Of Brits Relying On Dream Cash Windfall To Clear Personal Debt

the compass of nowTwo-thirds of Britons are relying on a “dream” cash windfall to clear personal debt, new research shows.

One-in-three people believe they will land a major pay rise, win the lottery, make a fortune at the bookies, or inherit enough money to wipe the financial slate clean at some point in the future.

The majority freely admit that the likelihood of actually netting a large amount of cash unexpectedly is “improbable”.

But most continue to borrow or live beyond their means on the assumption that “the biggie”, when it comes in, will pay-off all outstanding loans, overdraft and credit card debt in one fell swoop.

Less than half of those in debt have sought professional advice about debt consolidation schemes or other repayment options, with the majority relying on non-qualified friends and family for guidance.

The poll of nearly 1,000 adults was conducted by the personal debt expert DDnard (corr), as part of an ongoing international study into borrowing behaviour.

DDnard, a Thai author whose self-help books on the subject have sold over 1.4million copies worldwide, describes those dreaming of a windfall as ‘flying ostriches’.

“It is clear that some borrowers either have their heads in the sand, or their heads in the clouds. Many do both,” she said.

“They either shy away from reality in the hope that it goes away, or they daydream about extraordinary ways in which it will be paid on their behalf.

“The sad fact is that, for most people at least, cash windfalls never materialise and those in debt must face the music and tackle the issue head-on. This is the only way to reduce personal debt and have a guaranteed debt-free future.”

Of the 921 adults questioned, 68 per cent said they were relying on an unexpected windfall. Of those, 19 per cent were hoping for a “major pay rise”, 13 per cent were counting on winning the lottery (13 per cent), and five percent were praying for a good streak at the races.

The majority were hoping for an inheritance (56 per cent), while seven per cent were reliant on the sale of their house of other valuable asset).

Less than a quarter (21 per cent) genuinely believed a windfall was probable, with 28 per cent and 51 per cent admitting it was either “possible” or “improbable” respectively.

Some 13 per cent said had not obtained professional advice because they were “unsure who to ask”, while the majority (48 per cent) seek financial advice from friends or family.

Only 39 per cent of those who were “struggling” with unsecured debt had sought professional advice from a bank or third party expert.

Food, school clothing, utility bills and other basic necessities accounted for 38 per cent of respondents’ debt.

But the remainder went into the red by purchasing “non-essentials” like expensive presents and home improvements, and by buying “extravagances” such as new cars and family holidays.

In total, 59 per cent admitted they could improve the way they handle money to avoid debt in the future. Almost the same number (41 per cent) said the cost of living is so high that personal debt is “all but unavoidable from time to time”.

The straw poll found that the overwhelming majority (56 per cent) of respondents blamed the ease at which they could obtain additional credit cards, transfer money to pay their balances, overdrafts and loans had contributed to the problem.

Others blamed the pressure of living in a “must-have” consumerist environment (16 per cent), the “buy now, worry later” mentality of peers or family (19 per cent), the desire to “live like a celebrity” (six per cent), and even the belief that buying things “made me happy” (three per cent).

Author and personal finance expert DDNard clawed her way back from a £2million debt following the unexpected death of her husband, a diamond magnate.

The self-help guru, whose new book The Compass of Now has just been released in the UK, said overcoming a mountain of debt isn’t easy, but that can be achieved by taking “one small step at a time”.

“This generally begins by accepting that you have a problem, or that one looks set to arise,” she said. “Once you are able to fully acknowledge a potentially problematic situation, you are better prepared to go about reversing it.

“The golden rule with debt, however small or large it might be, is not to bury your head in the sand and rely on a miracle – or a million-pound cash windfall. Seek expert advice and take matters into your own capable hands.”

The Compass of Now by DDnard (Life Compass Co., Ltd.) is available now.